(Celebrating Friendship in Marriage 3)
In this part of the article, I’d like to encourage all married couples to embrace the inevitable changes that come with marriage. It is easy to fall into the trap of resisting change but change is inevitable and therefore a much better approach is to embrace it. Resisting the change won’t stop it from happening. So I’m encouraging you to embrace the change and enjoy the journey.
If your partner is constantly complaining about something, the easier thing is to switch off because you have become accustomed to hearing those complaints. However, rather than ignoring their complaint (pretending it doesn’t matter) or getting upset about it, a better way would be to make time to listen to their heart's cry so you both can address those needs. Go back to the beginning! Go back to the start of your relationship and remind yourselves of why you wanted to get married. Then go back to your wedding day and remind yourself of the vow you made 'To love and cherish':
During the course of married life (work, family, bills, chores, etc.) we can forget the vow to ‘love and cherish’ and begin to take each other for granted.
Each year of your marriage will bring changes or challenges. Embrace the changes and keep loving and cherishing each other. Be aware of how these events are affecting the marriage and your parenting (if you have children). If left unattended they can destroy the marriage.
Tip____: Keep the love alive in your marriage. Love and cherish each other. Do not let the external issues negatively impact your marriage. Stay focused! And stay blessed.
More in part 4 ~ The Power of Communication and Connection
Copyright 2018, Janice S. Ramkissoon
Note____All quotes are from the 'It Takes Two' Marriage event by Care for the Family.
Part 1 ~ Conflict and that 'creeping separateness' | Part 2 ~ The Place of Prayer in Our Marriage | Part 3 ~ To Love and Cherish | Part 4 ~ The Power of Communication and Connection | Part 5 ~ Healthy Conflict - Fighting Fair | Part 6 ~ Commited to the Cause | Part 7 ~ Marriage and Parenting - Transferable Skills