(Celebrating Friendship in Marriage 2)
Praying for each other is an essential part of our married life. There is a place for prayers in our marriages. It is a humbling process, accepting that we do need help.
Prayers played a big part in helping us to make the decisions that were necessary, though often challenging or sacrificial. It will continue to be a big part of our married lives because we have seen the positive effect it has had and continues to have on our marriage. It makes sense to go to the One who designed marriage for instructions on how to move forward.
James 5:16 tells us to confess our sins to each other and pray for each other so that we may be healed. The verse continues by making us aware that ‘The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.’ So it is necessary to confess our sins and not allow anything to block our prayers.
We know that our marriage is not surviving simply because of our own prayers. Many prayers have gone up for us even before we were married. I had a praying Grandmother and a community of prayer warriors (some of whom are still praying for me today). As a couple we are connected with other praying couples as well as other believers in our church community who cover us in prayer.
Along with praying, it is necessary to do the practical thing we are capable of doing in order to see the manifestation of those prayers.
We’ve found that confession within our marriage helps to break down the barriers to communication, opens the door to forgiveness and brings healing to the areas in which we are hurting. Praying for each other over the years as well as praying together definitely brought us closer together. That closeness enabled us to fully trust each other with our hearts so we could totally be vulnerable with each other. That vulnerability has helped to direct our prayers and address the areas of individual struggles. This is an area that will always impact the marriage and the way we parent our child as well as the way we relate to others outside the marriage.
We have learned so much about marriage and parenting on this journey that we’ve been able to pass on wisdom to younger couples in our lives—offering the kind of advice to them now that could have helped us in the early stages of our marriage.
Long may the learning process continue as we apply the lessons we have learned.
Tip____: Keep learning about each other and praying for each other. The learning process is a life-long process.
More in part 3 ~ To Love and Cherish
Copyright 2018, Janice S. Ramkissoon
Note____All quotes are from the 'It Takes Two' Marriage event by Care for the Family.
Part 1 ~ Conflict and that 'creeping separateness' | Part 2 ~ The Place of Prayer in Our Marriage | Part 3 ~ To Love and Cherish | Part 4 ~ The Power of Communication and Connection | Part 5 ~ Healthy Conflict - Fighting Fair | Part 6 ~ Commited to the Cause | Part 7 ~ Marriage and Parenting - Transferable Skills