After raising two girls. Momma never told me there would be days like this. We adopted two girls with special needs. Not thinking it would be that difficult. I mean we were already parenting pros. Or so I thought. Boy did the Lord have to teach me.
When you have a child with ADHD or a learning disability. You learn to see life differently. I used to freak out at every little thing our first two daughters did. Special needs kids teach you that it's ok.
You don't need to sweat at every little detail in life. They teach you the phews in life. Life is meant to be enjoying the moment.
I used to say when my daughter Sydney was little. "If only she would stay by me and not run every time I set her down". "If only she could comb her hair and brush her teeth everyday". "If only she could remember her assignments in school".
The list goes on and on and I'm not trying to be unkind. Anyone who has a child with ADHD knows what I'm talking about. Basic life skills are a real challenge.
I have learned to be happy with the things my child does do. She did learn to wash her hair this year. She is really good at computers. She is very smart and can think of things I would never imagine.
I don't know why there are disabilities in the world. I used to get mad at God. "You could have made her normal", I would say. Is this because her birthparents used drugs? Why God? Why? I don't understand?
I also ask God, "I think you made a mistake I'm not the parent to raise these children". Are you sure God?
The one thing I do know in life is that. God does the choosing not us. He knows the "Whys" in life. I have learned I'm not some great pridefull parent. Like I thought I was in the past. I basically have no clue on raising my two girls.
What I do have is a day by day trust that the Lord is going to lead me. I call out to Him, crying at times and saying "I do not know what to do".
Like the gentle shepherd that He is. He leads me, a thought will come to do this or that.
Sometimes it's a walk with the child and talking about the behavior. Or giving each other some cooling off time. Or encouraging words or a hug. Or taking away a privledge.
Whatever it is trusting the Lord for your parenting works. Best of all Jesus gets the credit not me. So I want to encourage you. If you are having a struggle with your child. Just give it to the Lord.
If you ever take a Parenting 101 class. Take the Parenting 101 Plus 1
Because that 1 is Jesus. (Words-386)
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