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Topic: AGREE TO DISAGREE (05/04/17)
- TITLE: If God Is Love
By Donna Powers
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Iâ€™m sure youâ€™re surprised to hear from me. At our last meeting, I gave you the impression I want nothing to do with you. Iâ€™m sorry I said the things I did. Please give me a chance to apologize for my unloving words and attitude.
I wish I could describe what was going through my mind the day my son died. I didnâ€™t express my love for him very eloquently â€“ because I was feeling so angry at meeting you. Of course Iâ€™d guessed what Stevenâ€™s life been; but my lifelong beliefs prevented me from accepting it as reality. Until you walked into the hospital room, I could pretend you were only â€œStevenâ€™s roommateâ€ â€“ and my denial continued to depict my son as Iâ€™d imagined him.
Iâ€™ve always believed certain absolute truths. Those beliefs had been unchallenged for so long. I never considered there could be more than one way to see such truths. I still donâ€™t know how I feel, but I can no longer leave my convictions unchallenged.
When I thought about Men Like You, Iâ€™d had a set image in mind. When Iâ€™d imagined you, it was as someone who wore his Sin like a cloak of shame. When they told me you were going to visit, I expected you to prance into Stevenâ€™s room, realize my presence superseded your right to visit Steven and slink sadly away forever.
I was cold and dismissive with you. I demanded you leave, but you didnâ€™t. Your eyes were fixed on Steven. I couldnâ€™t believe you had the nerve to visit him; to barge into my precious last few hours with my son. But, you went straight to his side, held his hand, and began weeping.
As you passed me I couldnâ€™t help but recognize the look on your face: pure love.
How could that be?
You may have lived with him over 20 years, but Iâ€™d been certain True Love couldnâ€™t possibly have been part of That Kind of Thing.
But it was love -no question. And if God is love, as I believeâ€¦.. I just donâ€™t know the end of that sentence. But I was so shocked by my realization I couldnâ€™t speak intelligibly. I collapsed in tears and left the room. I couldnâ€™t handle - or identify what I was feeling.
Later, when Steven died, I tried to connect with you in the moment of grief; but you were understandably dismissive of my condolences.
By the time of his funeral, Iâ€™d buried my ambivalence and reverted to my familiar convictions. I could see your grief was genuine, but couldnâ€™t allow myself to emerge from my cocoon of self-righteousness. After all, he was my son. Youâ€™d had no legal claim on his life; any part youâ€™d played in his life was better ignored. Never mind my fleeting glimpses of a man grieving for the loss of love; I wanted your part in his life to be forever buried with him.
I wish I could explain my evolution of thought since Stevenâ€™s funeral. I was numb for many weeks afterward, but then began flashing back to the moments weâ€™d spent together in the hospital. Weâ€™d barely spoken, but I knew my condemnation was palpable in the air. Iâ€™d let my preconceived ideas get in the way of sharing that moment with someone whoâ€™d also loved him.
I still canâ€™t wrap my head around all the truths of your relationship with Steven, but Iâ€™ve had to consider that maybe you two shared a loving and nurturing relationship. Itâ€™s hard for me to process how to reconcile this with my beliefs. I donâ€™t dislike youâ€“ itâ€™s just what you represent. Meeting you â€“ and being confronted by the differences in my preconceived notions from what I was compelled to recognize as a new aspect of my old truths â€“ has torn my lifeâ€™s beliefs from their hinges.
I hope this letter allows you to see Iâ€™m trying to make peace with my thoughts about you. Iâ€™d like another chance to talk with you about Steven. I believe there are things you could share with me about him â€“ and maybe you have questions for me.
May we please meet for coffee, and see how that goes? Thereâ€™s a coffee shop near the courthouse where Steven and I used to enjoy ice cream sodas. Iâ€™ll meet you there this Sunday at noon.
May God bless you
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