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Adultery in the Ministry
by Patricia Backora
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teach the Flock of God, bear a fearful degree of responsibility before Me. Certain “miracle workers” and evangelists go round telling others I am able to save them from sin and deliver them from every bondage. But all too often, the core emphasis of their message is “Jesus can fulfill your potential as a person”, or “God wants to make you happy and give you ALL the desires of your heart.” This ME-centered message is a clever counterfeit of the true Gospel. It appeals to men much more than being told the truth: Sin is utterly abhorrent to a Holy God. Sin will condemn your soul to eternal perdition. Sin, if left unconfessed, un-repented-of, and un-forsaken, will fester like a devouring cancer in your bones and marrow and finally render a soul totally deaf to the pleas of My Spirit to turn to Christ for eternal salvation. A stubbornly unrepentant sinner’s heart will gradually harden like concrete until it is IMPOSSIBLE for them to come to Christ because they are utterly past feeling or caring. They will no longer be responsive to My Spirit or the things of God.

Sin is even soft-pedaled from the pulpit. Preachers don’t like to sound “negative” or to “major on minors”. But sin is no minor matter in My sight. One reason preachers won’t condemn sin from the pulpit is they’ve lost all authority to do so. If some preacher is on his third or fourth wife or has dumped the wife of his youth for a blond sexpot a third of his age, leaving his heartbroken, destitute wife and their children behind to fend for themselves, how can this wretched man tell YOU to live uprightly as a good testimony to the victorious power of Christ in you, the Hope of Glory?

Times have changed, and so have general church attitudes toward sin, which is now called ‘moral shortcoming’ or ‘human frailty’. A preacher who sins repeatedly in the area of fornication or one-night stands with harlots “needs healing” instead of a stern rebuke. His tender-hearted but misled wife might even zip her lip and pretend it’s all HER fault he went astray. If only she hadn’t gained five pounds or forgotten to use her wrinkle cream, or neglected her aerobic classes. She’ll even bravely tell her children their daddy “needed a fresh start” and “the Lord led him” to divorce, and they must act like everything is normal “for the sake of the ministry”. But as far as I’m concerned that man’s ministry is already ruined because he destroyed his REAL ministry: to his precious wife and kids. If a man lives in unrepented-of adultery and takes a second wife ‘for every cause’ then he’s just as hard-hearted as the ancient Israelite men who ditched their spouses for a fresher face, begging Moses to release them lawfully from their obligation to treat their wives kindly and to please provide them with a religious cop-out from having to make a go of their marriages.

Day by day I’d look down from heaven and watch godly, faithful Israelite wives slave away grinding grain, feeding livestock, butchering animals, dyeing clothing, weaving, spinning. fetching water, mending clothes by hand, bearing children, nursing sick little ones, cooking, cleaning, and helping in the fields. Starved of sleep and barely able to pause to eat (if anything was left when the men finished their dinner) the faithful wife hoped and prayed that despite her punishing lifestyle, despite her lack of rest and sleep, and her repeated pregnancies that her husband wouldn’t find someone else more attractive. I saw many women like this who had EARNED their husband’s love and respect a thousand times over being cast out of the house because she burnt just one meal or got a spot on her face from being out in the fierce sun working day after day. It often happened that the unfaithful husband would bring home some woman in her teens or early twenties, freshly nubile, slender of form and with a gorgeous face, to replace the worn-out woman he no longer desired. The first wife would either be relegated to a poor second place in the household (or third, after the mother-in-law) or cast out into the streets like dung to fend for herself. And that usually meant prostitution, if she had no relatives to care for her.

Where do you think these heartless cheating rats went after they died? To the same wretched part of Hades as the wicked Rich Man of Luke chapter 16. They were definitely NOT numbered among the righteous saints of ancient Israel. Some of these jerks offered up repeated animal sacrifices and even fasted every Day of Atonement, hoping to “smooth things over” with Me and persuade Me to accept their pretty new wife as a legitimate substitute for the faithful life partner they’d wronged and rejected. These evil men actually thought that they could BUY more mercy from Me. They hoped to persuade Me to treat them with endless unmerited favor while they wouldn’t even bestow a little pity and consideration upon a wife who’d actually EARNED their kindness. But I hated these hard-hearted men’s loathsome, blemished sacrifices. I prefer mercy and righteous dealings with your neighbor to empty ritual. These men are burning in hell today.

The cruel, wicked men of ancient Israel squeezed all the work out they could of their first wives like you’d squeeze toothpaste out of a tube and then throw the tube away. A similar thing happens today, time and again. The wife of an “up-and-coming” ministry celebrity has spent years in his office, typing and designing brochures and flyers to perk interest in her husband’s ministry work. She has set aside her own well-being and personal needs, and even those of her children to “build her husband’s ministry”. A faithful minister’s wife is an unsung heroine who is quickly forgotten about once the smoke clears after her cheating rat husband tires of her and finds a fresher face “to complement his ministry”. The very woman whose talents, energy, and abilities the husband has exploited for years is abruptly DUMPED like trash because “the lord” (satan) led the preacher to file for divorce and marry the other woman who “loves Jesus” and who happens to look like a teenage fashion model. Why don’t these adulterous old lechers ever claim I led them to remarry with some fat, grey-haired widowed grandma who loves Jesus? This hard-hearted brute never would have become a famous big shot if it hadn’t been for the hours of labor put in by his unseen, unappreciated help mate, his first and ONLY wife!

A certain modern prophecy teacher warns people they’d better repent and get ready for Christ’s Second Coming, and live for Jesus, or miss the Rapture. This man is now on his fourth wife. Three strike-outs and he was still playing left field, thinking he’s hit a home run on his fourth time up to bat. And it just so happens this fourth woman is a blond beauty young enough to be his daughter. Why do people fall for the lies of preying, prowling, parasite preachers and believe their God would lead His own ministers to violate His own word in Luke 16:18:

Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

This man is praised far and wide as a big-name expounder of Scripture. So why don’t Christians notice he doesn’t even obey this plain and simple commandment of his Savior?

There is a snake-tattoo preacher who mesmerizes crowds and hauls in the cash. He also divorced and remarried a trophy blond.

A man who hiked around the world with a cross on his back ditched his faithful first wife, who gave him seven children. He remarried GUESS WHAT? A gorgeous blond young enough to be his daughter. While he had fun on his honeymoon his first wife wept and wondered how she could cope with a handicapped son, mounting bills and all the pain and shame of being unjustly divorced. SHE was the one carrying a REAL cross, not this big shot celebrity home-wrecking hypocrite.

This man smiles like an angel. He tells crowds JESUS LOVES YOU! SMILE! He preaches a God Who loves you just as you are (where is THAT in My Word? Read the TRUTH in Psalms 5:6 and 11:5). He also truthfully preaches the truth that you can do nothing to earn My mercy, love and kindness. He preaches a sweet, gentle Jesus Who will forever be your faithful Friend, through thick and thin. Also very true, in the case of truly repentant souls who walk with Me in faith. After sharing this happy message with millions around the globe, this same man turned around and ditched a faithful wife who could have rightly expected that she EARNED his love a thousand times over, even if unmerited grace were left out of the equation. After all, wouldn’t a faithful, hard-working SLAVE deserve a little kindness and loyalty? Where was that stick-to-your-side-forever love and loyalty preached by the popular “Jesus Revolution” preacher when he decided the forever kind of love was too hard a challenge to tackle? So long as it was fun and carefree to be with her, he was as loyal as a puppy dog. And he was forever begging Me to please be patient with him and forgive his own sins and to be by his side wherever he went around the globe. But when it came time to show those same tender mercies to his fellow-servant, his own faithful wife, forget it!

He testified continually that he loved Me. And he really did at one time, even to the point of suffering agonizing persecutions and tribulations for My sake. What happened? A lying spirit of deceit got in. You can get to where you’re even confused about what love toward Me IS! Love manifests in a wonderful feeling, but true love toward Me entails OBEDIENCE!

If you love Me, you’ll keep My commandments, and My commandments are good and right. They are not a grievous burden because they’re rooted and grounded in love toward God and neighbor (John 14:15; I John 5:3).

If you love any other person more than Me, you’re not worthy of Me (Matt.10:37-38). Loving some forbidden lover more than Me is IDOLATRY, because that forbidden sin or practice takes the place of first loyalty in your heart. Your Savior and His commandments are put off the Throne of your heart, and your lover sits in My place. This confused man rationalized away My clear commandment NOT to divorce and remarry (Luke 16:18). He succumbed to satan’s subtle lie that since I am a spirit and not material paper and ink (the Bible) that I could allow him to do anything I wished, even if I went against My own written Word. He, like a multitude of other unfaithful preacher husbands, bit the devil’s bait and ensnared his own soul. Like Eve, such deluded preachers fall for the devil’s lying question: Hath God said (Gen.3:1)? Philandering preachers ask themselves: Did God REALLY command me not to touch any other woman except the wife of my youth?

What do I think of people who refuse to dispense to others that same love and mercy I’ve shown them? It is like the story of the unmerciful servant who refused to forgive his brother a tiny debt after his lord had forgiven him a thousand times as much. Maybe this preacher’s wife sometimes had mood swings or dropped one of the many balls she was expected to juggle in her busy life. Maybe she didn’t manage to keep herself looking 19 years old as the years took their toll on her body. So what did this vengeful preacher do but punish his sweet, gentle wife and go look for a new bed partner? Don’t kid yourself. These unfaithful “Christian” husbands will whitewash their filthy lusts with the lame excuse that “the Lord” ordained their second, third or fourth marriage so he and his “spirit-anointed helpmeet” could go forth together in the harvest field to bring glory to My Name. Well, I wasn’t the one who anointed that sad situation, or the new bed warmer. Their marriage wasn’t anointed with the Oil of the Holy Ghost. If anything, it would have been greased with the hog fat of hell! Yes, there IS an anointing of enemy deception, because such a faithless hypocritical preacher has an oily guileful tongue deceiving My flock to commit fornication like the Jezebel of the church at Thyatira.

Rev.2:20: Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.
21 And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not.
22 Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.
23 And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.

Even if this couple isn’t preaching adultery as a doctrine, they’re still TEACHING it through the wicked example they set before other believers. I am not mocked. So far as I am concerned, your actions speak far louder than your words!

One of the world’s biggest celebrity TV preachers screams and hollers about how America is going to hell for the way her families are falling apart. He laments the way men and women are becoming more self-centered and not living up to their God-given gender roles in marriage. Hot tub saints, he called them once. But who is he to step up to the pulpit and denounce his own country for her sin when he himself deserted a faithful wife and the mother of his first two children, back in the 70’s? He just thought some YOUNGER, prettier chick might generate better publicity for his so-called ministry. So he denounces divorce and irresponsibility, does he? He counts on the fact most people have short memories and soon get lost in the flow of what “god” is allegedly doing in the services conducted by these big boombox preachers they so idolize. But how short does this man think MY memory is?

Another man in the “healing ministry” took orders from his preacher dad instead of Me. So he divorced a very godly woman just because she disagreed with the ministry’s crooked fund-raising tactics. This so-called healing guru left his forsaken wife and their daughters devastated and in need of deep emotional healing. The guilty man remarried a vivacious brunette who “energized” his ministry and was a “perfect complement” to it. Like David and Bathsheba, they lost their first child to a serious illness in early infancy. Their son’s ailment could not be cured even by believing prayer offered up by millions of people. The sins of a “spiritual leader” are NOT strictly his own affair. His actions hurt others too. Even as David’s sin gave My enemies an excuse to blaspheme Me, so do the scandalous sins of popular preachers bring reproach upon the true Gospel of Jesus Christ (2 Pet.2:2).

What do I think when immoral “Christian” women find out the preacher is suddenly “available” and pretty themselves up to attract him?

Prov.5:4: For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
4 But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.

Prov.6:24: For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life
24 To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.
25 Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids.
26 For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?
29 So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.

Prov.9:13: A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.
14 For she sitteth at the door of her house, on a seat in the high places of the city,
15 To call passengers who go right on their ways:
16 Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: and as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him,
17 Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.
18 But he knoweth not that the dead are there; and that her guests are in the depths of hell.

Eccl.7:26: And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.

Whenever a preacher fails to escape the clutches of an immoral woman it’s a sure sign that preacher is not pleasing in My sight. And the fact he was taken by her wiles proves he is living in sin and rebellion against his God. I promise only HELL, not paradise, after the death of such an offender. There will be many preachers who bragged to Me that they prophesied, spoke in tongues, “healed the sick” and out-jumped and out-shouted any other Christian around. But they will have refused to cut off that member that led them to hell, the new wife taken in an act of adultery.

Mark 9:42: And whosoever shall offend (cause to stumble) one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.* * * * *Beware of teaching your children by example that it’s okay to discard a loving, faithful mate, and remarry someone else. This will make it much easier for your children to copy your sins when they’re grown up. This infuriates your Maker.
43 And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:
44 Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.
45 And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter halt (crippled) into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:
46 Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.
47 And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire:
48 Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.

Preachers pound My people over the head with obsolete tithing laws out of Malachi. But they HATE this Malachi passage because it’s not as much fun:

Mal.2:13:And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.
14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that HE HATETH PUTTING AWAY: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Preachers who divorce and run around on their spouses are teaching their children by example “if it feels good, do it”, and it doesn’t matter what the Bible says because “the Lord understands, and He’ll forgive me anyway because He knows my frame, that I’m only weak human dust.” Preachers who break their marriage vows teach their sons that women are just disposable tissues, and once you’ve used them for your pleasure, just throw them away and get a fresh one.

But how do you make a tiny child understand why Daddy had to leave his sweet mommy (and him) to run off with that sexy blond, a woman the same age as his daughter?

Where is the DISCIPLINE in My carnal carnival celebrity church? What did I say to do with unrepentant adulterers? Are they to continue in ministry as if nothing had happened? Why should Christians allow the adulterer and his adulteress second wife to occupy an exalted place of spiritual authority over My flock? Are they less accountable to Me for their behavior than the “ordinary pew Christian” judged by Paul in the early church? Did Paul gloss over this man’s sin in the name of sloppy, spineless “love”? (one of the devil’s cleverest deceptions today).

I Cor.5:1: It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.
2 And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you.
3 For I verily, as absent in body, but present in spirit, have judged already, as though I were present, concerning him that hath so done this deed,
4 In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ,
5 To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.
6 Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?
7 Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:
8 Therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, neither with the leaven of malice and wickedness; but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.
9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
10 Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world.
11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
12 For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
13 But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.

Paul complained about a LITTLE leaven in the Church. But in these evil apostate days, preachers are hauling truckloads of leaven into their assemblies and crowding all the good stuff out of the building. A holiness-hating church is like a bread recipe where the ratios of flour and yeast are reversed. The leaven of sin has taken over so completely that believers who still preach holy living are called Pharisees.

How do carnal believers respond to Paul’s admonition not to even eat with an adulterer? They disregard it! Not only do they keep company with fornicating preachers and attend fund-raising dinners in order to shake hands with that religious celebrity, they stand in line to see his latest film and buy his new book. They reward his wickedness with worship and cash because they “love” him too much to hold him responsible for his sin. They don’t care if they “love” that hypocrite into hell!

Do I really “gloss over” adultery and excuse it in My ministers?

I Tim. 3:2: A bishop then must be blameless, THE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

I Cor.6:9: Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

What do I think of rats who desert the storm-tossed ship of a troubled marriage and refuse to support their wives and children?

I Tim.5:8: But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Do I take marriage vows lightly? Is marriage only a civil ceremony, a contract you can just tear up and throw away?

Eph.5:25: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Does a preacher love his wife as himself when he subjects her to the hardship, loneliness, pain and shame of an unjust divorce? Does he nourish and cherish his wife like Christ does His church when he washes his hands of his FIRST family? How can he possibly teach others that Jesus must be honored as Lord over other believers’ homes if I am not the Lord of that preacher’s own bedroom?

And if it is I, the Great Judge of all the Universe, Who joined this man to his first (and only) wife, what human judge on earth has the authority to declare that my joining together of this couple is now null and void? The act of adultery is a gross desecration of the Temple of the Holy Ghost:

I Cor.6:15: Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.
16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

What might happen to those who harm members of My body the church (including an innocent marriage partner)?

I Cor.11:29: For he that eateth and drinketh unworthily, eateth and drinketh damnation to himself, not discerning the Lord's body.
30 For this cause many are weak and sickly among you, and many sleep.
31 For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged.
32 But when we are judged, we are chastened of the Lord, that we should not be condemned with the world.

Why do Christians continue to make excuses for these hard-hearted preachers who hate their own flesh and blood enough to run off and marry some pretty tart? Inspiration for this stinking sin definitely doesn’t come out of My Holy Word! What book are Christians reading out of that they think I sanction adultery, divorce and remarriage as normal and needful?

When Christians divorce and remarry against the clear commandment of their Savior, profound spiritual damage is done deep within. They may gloat that they’ve traded in their old gray mare for a new hot-to-trot filly, but they’ll NEVER win the horse race of faith!

Jer.5:7: How shall I pardon thee for this? thy children have forsaken me, and sworn by them that are no gods: when I had fed them to the full, they then committed adultery, and assembled themselves by troops in the harlots' houses.
8 They were as fed horses in the morning: every one neighed after his neighbour's wife.

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