Apologetics

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What do you do when someone wants to argue with what you are trying to share with them about the Lord? Do you just give up, pray about it, or keep talking? Here are a few suggestions when someone is being querulous:

1) When you first encounter the person, begin praying for an opening that the Holy Spirit can use to soften their heart. In a sense it is like a spiritual chess game, with the Holy Spirit telling you which pieces to move. If they begin to argue, try to discern if they are really wanting information or just trying to push your buttons. Remember, they are rebelling against God, not just what you are saying. Are they truly seeking God or just wanting a good fight?
2) It is not how much you say that matters, but that you say what God wants you to. Here is a secular example: My dad owned a furniture store when we were first married, but he was deaf with hearing aids to help him.. Sometimes, because he couldn’t hear exactly what was said, he would begin by selling the piece of furniture, then he would talk so much the person would decide against it. The same thing can happen when we witness,. We can be so intent on saying what we think should be stated, that we say too much . Being sensitive to the person’s needs at the time, and to what the Holy Spirit wants you to say is the only sure way to witness. Remember your job is to plant a seed, not necessarily harvest the soul. God gives the increase. He is the one who must deal with that person through the rest of their life.
3) If someone wants to argue about keeping the Ten Commandments, for example, refer them to Romans and Galatians in the New Testament. The people I have encountered in this stance have not read these two books. Tell them you will be glad to discuss the subject again with them after they have read these two books honestly. This way you are letting God deal with them as they read, if they do. If they just want to argue, they will likely not read what you tell them. Let them know you will help them answer any honest questions they have, but that you will not argue with them.
4) A person was trying to argue with me about the Bible, one day, saying they had a question. However, it was obvious they just wanted to argue so I told them “It is good to have questions but sometimes questions can keep you from God”. Some people have all kinds of questions, one after another, but they never get any closer to God because all their questions get in the way. You must discern if this is what is happening through the Holy Spirit, so you don’t waste your time and resources on someone who really deosn’t want answers.
Sharing with people what God has done in your life is one of the most powerful tools you can use. People love a good story, so write it down and practice telling what God has done in your life. God bless you as you minister in His Name.

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