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Thank God Men Are Getting Selective by Mike Ramey

by Mike Ramey
10/01/25
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     Would you like to know the truth as to why men ‘seem’ to no longer be interested in getting married and are staying single—in droves? Well, I’m glad you stopped by because this truth is seldom ‘brought up’ in many of the social media relationship clips prepared by women—or men!

     Ready? The reason the dating scene has become so hard for some IS that men—upright men, real men, godly men, and Christian men—are becoming MORE selective in the type of woman whom they want on their arm AND want to walk down the aisle in Holy Matrimony.

     To the brother that is getting—and being—selective when it comes to dating, you get a tip of the hat from me. YOU are of HIGH worth in the eyes of God. Don’t settle for LESS when it comes to the type of woman you become interested in dating. In other words—in your dating life? Do NOT let the wrong woman enter your life IF you are serious about finding a wife!

     I have met a variety of Gen Z men. Some are married. Some are single. The men I have met have been upright, godly men. You know—the men that are not ‘available’ in our modern era of the smartphone and social media; the men society is more than happy to overlook. IF they happen to be married, they have bragged on the great wife that the Lord helped them to find. IF they are single, they are either content being single or are improving themselves in the HOPES that they may find an upright woman. If not, they are content to remain single—IF this is God’s plan for them.

     Let me repeat this in case you may have tuned in late. MEN are getting SELECTIVE!

     Let me add further. Single women had better take note!

     It has become fashionable for single women to post a variety of social media video clips as to the ‘lack’ of men on the dating scene. In many of these clips, they blame the men for not being ‘available.’ They find fault in ‘this man’ or ‘that man’ without bothering to come to terms at the relationship bottom-line: It is the single women who NEED to IMPROVE themselves, especially spiritually—having a right relationship FIRST with God through Jesus Christ.

     Many single men have taken note of these SM clips and have bypassed the drama. Many of them have steered clear of Jezebel, Delilah, Mrs. Lot, and Mrs. Potiphar and have learned to seek out a virtuous woman—and will hold out until she can be found…IF she CAN be found.

     Ladies, IF you are not willing to improve yourselves, feel free to continue to whine and complain to your ‘bitter buddies’ about “not being able to find a good man.” The truth hurts. Perhaps the REASON you can’t find an upright, single man is because YOU are an anxious, single woman.

     Press Conference: Men have ALWAYS been selective! Yes, even in the feminized society of today. Men have been taught to be selective in the type of school they attend, the type of career they enter, the types of friendships they form and the type of woman whom they pursue. The SMART brother is a WISE and selective man—not a ‘follow the female’ type of male. MEN are always in short supply. MALES? Never seem to be a shortage of them—much to the disappointment of the single sisters out there in dating land.

     I applaud the selective man! Sure, some of them have gotten it wrong—and have paid a price for NOT being selective. However, the WISE man listens to God, and doesn’t make the same mistake twice! Joseph ran FROM the wrong woman. Samson ran WITH the wrong women. Joseph’s destiny—because he was selective—led him to save his family and build his race. Samson’s destiny—because he wasn’t selective—led him to an early grave. BOTH had great potential, but only ONE was wise enough to be selective of the women around him.

     So, for all of you relationship wizards of smart up and down the line, tell your female clients the TRUTH. Enough with the skanks, roughnecks, adulteresses, whores, and the like trying to ‘pass’ themselves off as ‘successful, upright, datable single women.’

     REAL men are selective these days—and are getting more so! Nothing wrong with that!

     Mike Ramey is a Retired Gospel Minister, KJV Bible Teacher, syndicated columnist and Bible Prophecy Specialist who lives in Indianapolis, Indiana. He is a Circuit rider of the Funky Electronic Frontier. “Ramey’s Encouragements On Marriage” is one of a variety of his columns appearing and abounding in print and cyberspace, written from a biblical, business, and common-sense perspective since 1996. Catch Mike Ramey’s columns on X (Twitter), Substack, Faithwriters.com, LinkedIn and in fine publications like this one! To drop him a line—or a whine—the address is still the same: [email protected]. ©2025 Barnstorm Communications International.