Exercising Your Freedom
Blood was shed for your freedom. Don’t take it for granted. As you gain understanding, you’ll find that liberty to utilise your ability to make a positive difference in the lives of those around you. Use your freedom wisely so you can move from survival mode and begin living life to its fullest. You owe it to those whose blood was shed to bring you the freedom you now take for granted....the freedom so many have abused in the name of fighting for ‘justice’ or ‘equality’ when in reality they don’t want justice or equal rights they are simply exercising that selfish human trait of wanting ‘more’ rights/power.
We fight each other, taking sides with the slave or the slave master to the extent that we are consumed with hatred. Our inability to see the truth of what lies before us, finds us fighting one battle after the next, surviving one disaster after the other. We are so blind we cannot see and appreciate the distance we've come. Who then are we fighting, if not the enemy within?
The love for our brothers and sisters is no longer evident in our speech and actions. We have fallen for the trick of selfish behaviour, in this self-obsessed generation. We have chosen the selfish way of living that has become the way of life. "If it benefits me, then I'm in!" How selfish we have become. It's beyond a sad case. There is a need for education. My brother, it is time to educate thyself.
Traveling the path of destruction
Your lack of leadership in the past found you travelling the path of destruction. You want to repay evil for evil but God wants you to forgive.
Luke 6:36-42: Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful. “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”
So give the gift of forgiveness. It will free you from the prison in which you currently reside. And as you give so shall you be given. ‘Pressed down, shaken together, running over…’ Find the time to research your history, not for stones to throw at the perpetrators but to understand why you didn’t receive the leadership that you should have received. When you’ve released the resentment you’ll have more clarity to see and think objectively. That will bring into context the next part of the Scripture which says:
He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye.
There’s a lot to unpack in that passage. Nevertheless it drove home to me the fact that I could not fully understand the complexity of the lack in my life by simply looking at what was or wasn’t done for me by the leaders who neglected their responsibility to effectively lead me. Lacking wisdom, I would have continued down the path of a parent who neglected my child. From that understanding of the ‘blind leading the blind’ I had to obtain the knowledge needed to help my husband to effectively lead our child. It began with embracing forgiveness and I would now like to pass that piece of wisdom down to you.
Whether you are already a father or hope to become one someday, your child will need effective leadership, despite the lack in your childhood. You now have the choice to choose life and be healed from the past hurt and pain that was inflicted on you so that you can truly live again. Only then can you begin to unlearn the bad habits that will find your children in the same place where you now reside, mentally and emotionally. Having made the choice to do that, you can begin to learn knew habits that can become part of your new existence.
With a renewed mind, your actions will be seasoned with grace. You will lead from a healthy existence and you’ll have more and more room to receive the love that is just waiting to be poured out on you from your offspring and their offspring.
I’ve learned that what has been done in the past cannot be analysed from surface level or simply by what we feel. Therefore, we cannot expect to lead the next generation if we’ve not been led or if we’ve been led ineffectively. We too will lead in an ineffective way and the vicious cycle will continue to rotate.
My brothers I’ve heard you speak, I’ve seen the anger in your eyes and heard it in your voices. You’ve been deceived—presented with the lie that revenge is sweeter and forgiveness is for the weak hearted. That was the life leading to death—death of relationships through chaos in the home, at work and in the community. That lifestyle defines the road on which you’ve been travelling. You can stay on that path or you can take a step of faith and choose to start living.
Today you’ve been given the opportunity to see the ugliness you’ve been afraid to confront. You’ve felt the guilt you’ve been medicating and the shame you’ve been hiding. You now have the opportunity to turn away from that destructive path and seek the help you need to start living that life of abundance promised to you in John 10:10. Only you can make that choice. No one can make it for you. Life and death is before you and you have the choice to start living by the act of giving.
Make that first step to give the gift of forgiveness and find the internal peace you’ve been craving.
“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, that you and your descendants might live! Choose to love the LORD your God and to obey him and commit yourself to him, for he is your life. Then you will live long in the land the LORD swore to give your ancestors Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.” - Deuteronomy 30:19-20