Psalm: 118:23 “This is the Lord's doing; it is marvellous in our eyes”.
Two years ago, my husband and I met which I must say that it was an union - ship completely planned by God in His beautiful time. We both had our personal choices without even knowing these desires inside us were from the Lord, it was like He framed the picture in our minds of who He wanted us to marry and we just had to write it down in a piece of paper. There were people who thought I was out of my mind to have partner choices way out of my league but I had hope that God will fulfil His desire in my life. The Lord prepared our hearts to take on what He had in store and not what the world offered. We prayed for God’s leading in our lives and to look at each other with His eyes and not ours. Finding God’s will and getting our heart and mind to pursue that is the most amazing thing. Now, I would like to share that beautiful experience of finding God’s will and pursing it.
The day came when we both met for the first time and I had jitters all over, my parents were outside talking with him and his parents. My heart beat was rising like never before and I was praying inside my room with anticipation. Then they finally asked me to come out to see my husband and his family. The moment I saw him, the Lord’s peace overruled me completely. I looked at him couple of times and I was not quite sure if he wanted to talk with me until his dad asked me if I wanted to speak with him. At that moment we both jumped from our seats and headed to make our first conversation. All I wanted at the moment was God to speak with me and him and most importantly to look at each other through our Heavenly Father’s eyes.
We started our conversation with what work we both intend to do after marriage. At that point I was very sure about what I was going to say and I just said it, “True masters are those who make a life out of living”. In other words my passion was to serve the one true King Jesus, live for Him and help others see God through my life who loves them beyond boundaries.
At first I wasn’t sure what he thought about it but I had to say the truth. My heart to serve the Lord was an inborn trait, it’s like in my genes and my heart is always drawn towards it. So after these conversations with him about my previous work and my future plans, he told about his passion for the Lord and I felt like” two sides of a broken bridge being rebuilt and joined as one” but my husband gave a scientific explanation to the connection we felt, “Opposite poles always attract”. I was kind of shocked at his response but we had a good laugh at it.
After our meeting, I wanted to know if he and his family wanted to pursue this marriage. And I only wanted God’s approval for this marriage and His complete intervention. My wants are secondary but having the Lord’s will in my life is very important because He’s never wrong in the choices He has for me. It is always fine to ask the Lord about His will for our lives even if we have the peace about it or not. He will always tell show us His will and guide us and most importantly our heart must be open to accept His will and be willing to let Him take control.
We both didn’t know how to get in touch with each other and I just left it to the Lord for His leadership over this. In an unusual way we got in touch with each other which was completely planned out by God by giving us the boost we needed to get connected. So we began talking and growing together in Christ by praying and mentoring each other whenever we needed to, which is very important in a relationship and marriage. It’s good to know the Lord’s will to move forward and we must learn to speak into each other’s lives the word of God and pray for one another. Having a Christ - centered marriage is very important.
Before we got married, we both went through a tough spiritual battle, which led us to question God many times “Is this Your will?” It was a heart breaking experience which led to many days and nights of teary prayers. I didn’t know what to do because that whole time I was thinking it was the Lord’s will and how can this be possible. I was much wounded, rejected and asked the Lord to do His will for both of us. Many times I have prayed for God to take away what is not His will and I prayed continually for God’s will to be done in our wedding more than our wants. But at the same time I didn’t know if should pursue this or is this going anywhere until during my prayer the Lord spoke through His word from Psalm: 118:23 “This is the Lord's doing; it is marvellous in our eyes”. Once again I felt the Lord’s peace take control of me giving me assurance that His will,will be done. No matter how tough it was, I had hope that God will give His best and at the same time He will heal my broken heart. I knew I can find my comfort in God and He will always hold me close in His arms.
Days went by and my faith was struggling, hope was trying to find a path to take. I kept asking him to tell me why the delay in marriage and he struggled to tell me so that would not be burdened. I couldn't understand anything and I asked the Lord again to give me another sign say this is His will. I couldn't take this silence and couldn't take the fact of being rejected and not knowing for what reason. So i got down on my knees and prayed as Gideon prayed in the Bible in Judges:6:36 - 40
“36 And Gideon said unto God, If thou wilt save Israel by mine hand, as thou hast said,
37 Behold, I will put a fleece of wool in the floor; and if the dew be on the fleece only, and it be dry upon all the earth beside, then shall I know that thou wilt save Israel by mine hand, as thou hast said.
38 And it was so: for he rose up early on the morrow, and thrust the fleece together, and wringed the dew out of the fleece, a bowl full of water.
39 And Gideon said unto God, Let not thine anger be hot against me, and I will speak but this once: let me prove, I pray thee, but this once with the fleece; let it now be dry only upon the fleece, and upon all the ground let there be dew.
40 And God did so that night: for it was dry upon the fleece only, and there was dew on all the ground”.
With tears I put the fleece before Him by asking for a sign that this is His will. After few hours I see an image on my phone of a verse from Mark: 10:9 –“Therefore what God has joined together let no man put asunder” and again after a little while I saw another image of a verse from Matthew: 19:5 – “Therefore what God has joined together let no man put asunder”. And this was a sign and an answer to my prayers. I must say, God has been very patient with me for the numerous signs I asked before marriage and Yes!!! He’s a God of patience and consolation. He consoled me and gave me the patience to strive harder for His will in my life. I felt weak, tired, exhausted with the uncontainable pain inside but I knew I could always cast my burdens at the foot of the Cross of Calvary. This gave me the strength to press forward towards His amazing plan in my life.
Days went by and prayers were continuously made for a miracle. And during our time of waiting we continued to minister to each other by scheduling prayer calls and speaking God’s promises over each other. Not only that we spoke life into each other’s lives and encouraged each other to look at the cross where the help comes from. And during our prayer, we both cried because we felt the Lord’s presence and in His presence our tears couldn’t be controlled. After our prayer there was joy and peace over ruling our hearts as said in Psalm: 16:11 –“In thy presence is fulness of joy” and that joy gave us strength and hope to carry on.
We both faced many challenges before our marriage but those challenges always led us to trusting in God’s leading in our lives. I must say without God’s push, we both wouldn’t have survived the difficulties. We wanted to God’s will more than anything. So we waited for the Lord’s timing and wanted to honour God by this marriage.
Finally the Lord made the way for us and we followed Him. We got married and that day was a day of symbolizing God’s wisdom, power and will is mightier than anything. We didn’t follow our ways but we decided to look to God’s counsel for our lives more than anything because He formed us in our mother’s womb and orchestrated everything for us beautifully.
I am writing this article as a testimony of God’s goodness and faithfulness that carried us through and we just did what He asked us to do.
You may be struggling with something similar or a different situation, I encourage you to put your trust in Jesus and rely on Him for His will. He’s not far away, He’s near you and He will show you His plan for your life. His word says in Jeremiah 29:11 –“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end”. Set your priorities right by seeking God for His will, spending time with Him in prayer and by reading His word and have faith that “ With God all things are possible”.
Dear Heavenly Father,
We humble before Your throne and we rest all our situations at Your feet. We pray for Your guidance, peace, joy and comfort. Lord, We long to do Your will and would you take control of our lives. Help us to live as testimony of Your marvellous doing. We love you. In Jesus Christ name. Amen.
God bless you.