LOYALTIY TO DIFFERENCES
The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Marriage is the union of two people who are human but different by necessary features yet must provide needed help for each other. God never promised nor provided another Adam for Adam, neither does it appear he duplicated eve. Male and female established some necessary differences, yet not inferior. This man and woman are designed from one flesh to become one flesh!
They are Mr and Mrs because they are married to each other. There are uncompromiseable differences in man and woman. However, these differences posses their individual strength which when discovered and used appropriately produces greatness. And when exploited, result in unending crisis. In production of their likes, they must unite. They have the same organs except the necessary once that make them fulfil their specific responsibilities and purpose in life.
By the virtue of upbringing, exposure and tradition there are bound to be many differences. There are difference in habits and values between husband and wife. He would not bother if the light is off, but she cares dearly, light should not be on while sleeping. He snores, she hate it. She want them to talk, he is disturbed. Table manner should not be rigidly obeyed, she want this observed strictly. She dislikes tooth paste pressed out from any other places except the rear, he won’t care, just get it out and out anyhow. There are some colours appealing to her, he is indifferent to them, just get him nice stuff. He is shy, she is outspoken. He can eat rice throughout the week, and to her, varieties are necessity.
An unending crisis often out live relationship where differences are focused on and each person want to exactly produce himself or herself out of the other person. God knew Adam-Adam and Eve-eve will not serve the purpose of His creating human being. A difference out of a man’s peculiarity must be provided to meet the need of the man lacks; thus eve was brought to him. Man and woman cannot behave the same way emotionally and physically. He is strong and she is fragile. Then start the comparison with a woman that is very strong like a man in the neighbourhood. Unfortunately, such men will not consider if such strong woman prefer using her physical strength than her brain. Just want his wife display herself as supper man.
The first step to handling our difference is acceptance of him or her and be determined to prove and provide strength in the weaknesses. Just like an elderly man of thirty years in marriage rightly said“ I decided to make a ministry for y self out my spouse weakness”
Until we begin to tolerate our differences, focus on our strength and weave these strengths strategically to handle our collective dreams and calling, we may not experience peace in our relationship. This is the way to project our suitability in the home. it is helpmeet God made and interested in to fulfil a purpose not a duplication of yourself.
Sincerely, you cannot perform the best if your spouse is an exact duplicate of yourself. The differences in behaviour, emotions and physic give opportunities to learn wisdom and desire wisdom to keep the flag of our homes flying!