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Acquainted, Not Connected —Part 1
I was listening to T.D. Jakes’ teaching on the journey that Moses took from the palace to the desert and into his destiny. This teaching was titled: Nothing You’ve Been Through Will Be Wasted. That teaching came to me at a time when my heart was ready to receive it. In that message he said, “Acquainted to all, but connected to none.” I stopped what I was doing at that point and began to listen to him share my story of ‘It’s complicated’. There are many angles to take with this topic so I tried to focus on the two main areas I felt the urge to convey—Marriage and parenting.
Unconnected Marriage Partners:
We can see this lack of connection looking from the view point of a husband and wife who have allowed the spark to go out and so are no longer connected to each other. They have become roommates or housemates who share the parenting role of their children. I find that to be a very sad way to exist in a marriage but that’s the reality for some people. That kind of marriage does more damage to children than in most other cases. This is what motivates my sharing on the topic of marriage and parenting. I want to help husbands and wives to re-light the fire in their marriages so that they can truly experience the joy of being married. When the joy is ignited in their marriage they will then find joy in parenting and their children will be trained up (Prov. 22:6) in a healthy home environment. The children will then grow up with a healthy view of marriage and start their own marriages on a healthy pathway when they grow up.
Emotionally Unconnected Parents and Children:
Another angle to take is the lack of connection some parents have with their children whether young or old, married or unmarried. Marriages that suffer from neglect often end in separation or divorce. The knock on effect involves unhappy parents and children. The hurt felt by the partner who was wronged and the guilt from the partner who did the wrong deed sucks the very life out of the marriage—it saps our joy. Sometimes parents are trapped in the grieving process that they forget the hurting children and their needs in the process. That creates more problems. The problems those children face then spill over into other relationships and spiral out of control. Our schools are then left to deal with the after effects in our children. They then grow up and are released into society with wounds that are so deep they will carry it into their other relationships and their own marriages. In cases like these, history often repeats itself.
I may not reach many people with my sharing but knowing the pain a child endures from such neglect, I cannot remain silent on this topic. I must do what little I can to help save our children. Healing the world does not take a movement it starts with the ‘man in the mirror’.
Glorifying God:
The reason for our relationships is to glorify God. We can begin to see this happening in our marriages when husbands are willing to lead in the way that God intended for them to lead their homes and wives can say, “I’m going to submit to my husband’s spiritual authority every time.” See Ephesians 5:21-33 for these instructions. This then sets the foundation for our children who will then honour their parents according to Ephesians 6:1-3 which is a reiteration of Exodus 20:12. When our relationships are in line with God’s will we become salt and light to the world and in doing so we glorify our Father in heaven (see Matthew 5:13-16).
Questions we must ask ourselves and answer honestly in order to move forward:
- Am I missing that joy I once felt in the marriage?
- What baby steps can I make in keeping love alive in my marriage today?
If you are missing that joyous feeling here are some points to help you move forward:-
a) Find out God’s will for your marriage—read the Bible:
Invest in your marriage today by reading John 15 to find out how you can begin the process of regaining that joy, first as an individual (see Philippians 4:8-9) then apply the same principles to your marriage. Remember also that you can do all things through Christ who gives you strength (Philippians 4:13) so even if your marriage seems to be hanging on a thread, trust God to help you cope and allow Him to work through you and in your marriage (Proverbs 3:5-6). Don’t try to change your husband or your wife. God created us and He knows us better than we know ourselves or our partners know us. Here’s what you can do for your partner—pray.
b) Pray for your other half:
Begin to pray for your husband or wife and allow God to direct your path and to bring them in line with His will. Re-kindling the fire in your marriage may seem an impossible task if you have failed to invest in your marriage in the past. That being the case you may now be seeing a decline in the health of your marriage. Fear not! With God, all things are possible (see Matthew 19:26). I am a living testimony that God still works miracles today—my husband and I have experienced His miraculous power in our marriage. This is why I have the courage to share with you like this.
It is God’s will for your marriage to flourish and for you to find joy in being married. Ephesians 5:31 says, “’For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’” This is a reiteration of Genesis 2:24. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Matthew 19:6-7). I therefore plead with you today, receive the strength to endure and do the things humanly possible to keep love alive in your marriage while allowing God to do the impossible.
Please join me in ‘Acquainted, Not Connected 2’ for the closing part of this article.
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