Protect Your Children From Bullies
by Patricia Backora
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Christian parents insist that their children RESPECT THEIR TEACHERS, and rightly so. But proper respect should run both ways. While your children ought to respect the teacher’s authority as temporary care giver, the teacher, in turn, should respect a child’s basic rights as a worthwhile human being who deserves to live in peace, free from fear of harm. How can your child truly respect any teacher which fails (or refuses) to protect him/her once it is very clear they’re being picked on by other students in the class?
Many of these teachers, especially unconverted ones, are mere hirelings who don’t care about the welfare of those under their charge, they just want their regular paycheck (John 10:12-13). They’ll do the bare minimum just to keep their pathetic job. Like the cowardly shepherd hireling in the Bible, they RUN for their lives when troublemakers come on the scene. The bully might threaten to sue the teacher or even the principal if they so much as look at that evil one disapprovingly. So poisonous snakes are allowed to rule the school unchecked.
Once children reach school age, parents, BY LAW, must relinquish a good chunk of their children’s life time over to the care of these hireling strangers who may or may not end up liking their child.
I have ordained that PARENTS, especially the dad (where he’s still around) to be the front line of defense in deciding what influences come to bear on a particular child’s life. Once your child is out your door and on someone else’s territory, you’re largely out of action in that area till they get home. It is then you must listen to the sob stories of the terrible things that happened and try your best to remedy the harm, in the case of injustices being allowed to go on at school.
Teachers don’t want to appear partial or unfair. They don’t like to stick their neck out or take sides. So when junior comes come with a black eye and the parent goes to school to complain about it, the teacher will wimp out by saying: “It takes two to quarrel, and are you sure it was the other kid’s fault?” Even when a bone gets broken or a tooth or two gets knocked out, school officials will bend over backwards to be “sweet and reasonable” with school bullies doing damage to YOUR child.
How can you ever teach your child to respect authority when grown-ups don’t even recognize their basic human right to exist free of the fear of criminal activity in class? Yes, it IS criminal to hurt someone else’s child, even if the State doesn’t call it a crime. I call it a crime to do violence to your neighbor who has done you no harm (Luke 3:14). I call it a crime when a nasty bully falsely accuses your son or daughter of something they didn’t do just to get them into trouble. The teacher who KNOWS this or that child has a history of hurting some other child, unprovoked, has a duty to take sides with the vulnerable child and punish the guilty. And if that bully later takes revenge on his victim for getting into trouble, he ought to be expelled from school. Period. Even the ancient Christians expelled troublemakers from their midst (I Cor.5:2). Today’s Christians are expected to be sweet and accommodating ALL the time, even toward unrepentant criminals who hurt the most vulnerable among them, their own precious children!
Christian parent, how would you feel if YOUR own son or daughter got so depressed he/she took their own life because adults wouldn’t intervene to protect them from harm? Wouldn’t you spend the rest of your days racked with remorse and regret because you were too fearful to do the unpleasant part of parenting? Many think the worst part of parenting is to have to sometimes discipline their own children for misbehavior. But the hardest part of parenting is to take the shepherd’s rod and staff and beat off attackers which attack the sheep of his pasture. Confrontation doesn’t seem like a very Christian thing to do. But there is a time of war, not just a time of peace (Eccl.3:8). You’re to seek peace with all men. But it takes two to make peace, and if the other side doesn’t want it, you can’t let them trample all over you and your family whenever they feel like it.
Christians hate confrontation with unbelievers. It seems harsh and unloving to point a finger of blame and tell someone they’re in the wrong and they’d better stop doing it. But have I called you to be a weak rabbit in the jaws of a fierce lion, or have I made you a prince or princess in My Kingdom to carry out My orders and take a firm stand for righteousness and against wickedness?
Psalms 149:5: Let the saints be joyful in glory: let them sing aloud upon their beds.
6 Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a twoedged sword in their hand;
7 To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and punishments upon the people;
8 To bind their kings with chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron;
9 To execute upon them the judgment written: this honour have all his saints. Praise ye the LORD.
Many of My people stop with the pleasant, easy, fun part of being a saint: praising and singing. But, notice, this scripture says that the honor of binding wickedness in the earth belongs to ALL My saints. That includes saints of the past, present and future! I didn’t come to establish a big Christian music festival. I came to heal and restore My people and to destroy the works of satan (I John 3:8).
No, you aren’t to take a literal sword to go destroy your enemies. Use the Sword of the Spirit, the Word of God, in your warfare against satan, the true originator of these attacks on your child. The most loving thing you could do would be to warn the bully’s guardians and his enablers, and if they refuse to intervene, use the sword entrusted to law enforcement officials by reporting the abuse to the police (Rom.13:4). Make as much noise as possible in the community to cry out against the wrong being done in your public school system.
Isa.58:1: Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression, and the house of Jacob their sins.
Pray at length in the tongues of the Spirit, and if you aren’t filled with My Spirit with evidence of speaking in tongues, get filled (Eph.5:18-19). Your enemy satan isn’t ashamed to arm himself to the teeth with his own dirty weapons. So you should get every advantage My Word offers you. When you pray in tongues, your imperfect natural mind doesn’t even know what you’re speaking. But your perfected spirit man does (I Cor.14:14). My Spirit makes intercession for you according to My perfect will (Rom.8:27), which is much better than your own imperfect human will, which sometimes can only GUESS to a certain degree what My will for you might be.
Matt.5:13: Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.
Verse 14: Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid.
15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.
I have called My people to be salt and light in their own communities. How can My people be light to this world if they hide the truth under a bed, while they’re cringing in fear, hiding themselves under the covers in that bed, afraid to get up and confront the world which is hurting their own precious children?
You can choose to do nothing. You can believe satan’s sinister lie that the State is the ultimate authority and if they choose to turn a blind eye to the abuse, you can do nothing about it.
But you do nothing at your own peril. When her own nation was threatened with extermination by an enemy, Queen Esther could have reasoned that the powers-that-be were in control anyway, and there was nothing a weak woman could do about this terrible problem. She could have just allowed her people to perish without any interference from herself. But Esther, cozy in her fancy palace, got up off her duff and did something about it, even though her life hung in the balance and she wasn’t even certain of victory.
Mordecai told Esther that even if she chose to do nothing I would still send deliverance to the Jews from another source (Esth. 4:14), but she herself would suffer bad consequences from her inaction. Certain Christian parents today are afraid to get tough and they hope sweet love and candy kisses will win the day. But when you throw pearls before the swine they don’t appreciate their value and instead of thanking you they only turn around and tear you up even more (Matt.7:6).
The children of Christian parents are especially dear to Me, and if I must I will raise up another voice to defend them. I am about to shake up whole families in churches round the world to stir them with a holy zeal to want to see My glory manifested in individual homes. To the extent that all which is a spiritual danger to children must be rooted out and replaced with that which is good for the proper nurture of the young. Secular schools are VERY unedifying places for Christian youngsters. And sometimes so-called Christian schools also harbor bullies. Where I see that happen, I am enraged by the crass hypocrisy of so-called Christian believers persecuting the weak and defenseless. I will allow severe trials and testing to come upon all “Christian” bullies and ENABLERS as a tough chastisement for such cruelty toward a fellow believer (Matt.24:48-51). I have the power to CUT OFF from Christ anyone who refuses to walk in love toward their brethren. Reject My love and my goodness and you reject Me as well (Rom.11:22).
My disciples were instructed to FLEE whenever they found themselves in a place of severe persecution (Matt.10:23). But My precious little children are FORCED by adults to stay in a place where they are continually being torn down inside instead of spiritually edified. If you expected someone to give you a hard slap or trip you, or put tacks in YOUR chair, or gang up on you with like-minded abusers whenever you went into work, wouldn’t you report such criminal activity to your supervisor, or to the police if the boss refused to listen? Now if, as an adult, you’d refuse to tolerate such abuse even for one day, why, then, do so many of you lie by telling your vulnerable little children that being hurt like that is just a part of growing up? Why deny these precious young people the same rights and protection you yourself expect to enjoy as an adult?
The same scriptural rule about excommunicating troublemakers must also apply in Christian schools. If any student has, beyond all reasonable doubt, been proven to be a vicious troublemaker and remains unrepentant, then that one is to be cast out of any school which has been prayerfully consecrated to be under My Lordship. I have neither the time nor the patience to continue to endure the presence of wicked men women and children planting noxious weeds of hate in My pastures, vexing My sheep and tearing them down emotionally and spiritually. Even older children who know what they’re doing can fall under My wrath if they persist in unrepented-of cruelty or acts of evil.
You can choose to do nothing. You, like Jonah, the prophet, can run away from an unpleasant duty you find intimidating and uncomfortable. But you cannot choose the consequences of your inaction. When your son or daughter grows up running away from the devil instead of boldly confronting him in faith through the power of the Spirit, ask yourself why.
I have entrusted you with My precious little ones. And if any of these children are lost due to your own neglect to do what is good and right in defending them from harm, you’ll have to give an account to the Chief Shepherd of the flock on Judgment Day (I Pet.5:4).
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