A few years back, the Disney channel came out with ‘The Proud Family’…a cartoon which wasn’t my cup of tea. It was a tune which had the description of the teen Black female lead as: “…she’s cute but she’s LOUD…” !
Disney--in my view--did a far BETTER job with it’s ‘Fillmore!’ cartoon series. This tune broke a lot of good ground. It had a strong, positive teen Black male lead…but only lasted less than two seasons. (We ALL know that if the MSM puts forth something positive about people of color who happen to be male--well, let’s just say that it doesn’t usually last long…but I digress.)
One of the better portions of ‘The Proud Family’ were ‘The Gross Sisters.’ Three Black teen females. The littlest one had her hand permanently stuck out for money, or any other form of financial payoff. The biggest one served as the enforcer of the group. The middle-sized one was the spokesperson for the group. Their implied motto? “Where’s MY Cut?”
Whenever I hear a woman tell a man to ‘Man Up’ on any give situation (or in any given entertainment venue), I think of ‘The Gross Sisters’ in payout formation. Sad to say, feminism has accomplished what it set out to do; give women an opportunity to emulate the ‘worst’ of male behavior, without the stigma, public commentary or social criticism.
I believe that the time has come where men need to counterattack with the following phrase: “Women: Wise UP!”
INTIMIDATION AND MANIPULATION EQUALS FEMINISM:
Frankly, I am growing weary of the ignorance/arrogance of the modern woman.
A good example: how many times have upright men observed a sistah/sister who is dating the neighborhood thugg/rapper/drug dealer/gang member and is ‘shocked’ when she turns up pregnant? Of course, this imitation male…is NOWHERE to be found!
It gets better. New ‘mommy’ has had a score of upright brothers from various walks of life warn her against ‘hooking up’ with the neighborhood thugg/rapper/drug dealer/gang member. Did she ‘heed’ their wisdom? NO! What is her alternative? Either scream or manipulate a brother onto her ‘hook’ as the ‘new daddy’…complete with child support payments, OR, raise the child alone and disrespect ALL men for her stupidity.
Women: Wise UP!
IF American marriage rates are truly going down like the U. S. Census claims, it can be closely tied to the intimidation/manipulation feminist mantra put forth by the many modern women.
Here’s a brief refresher: As I have stated in other columns over the years, it is up to MAN to ask a WOMAN for her hand in marriage, NOT the other way around. It is up to a HUSBAND to be the provider, priest, and potentate of the home; NOT the WIFE. A man was NOT created to be a ‘Mr. Mom’, but a H-U-S-B-A-N-D.
TELLING SOME TRUTH--THE DLS:
There is something just plain creepy about seeing a woman on one knee with an engagement ring asking for a man’s hand in marriage…no matter how cute it may look on the television or movie screen. A marriage can’t be built on a ‘Gross Sisters’ mentality.
IF the truth be told, the reason why marriage rates are declining rests with the QUALITY of women available! Yes, a BA takes four years; an MS takes three years to five years and a PH.D takes another three to five years (if all goes well and we are not talking about a specialized profession such as medicine). No REAL brother is going to propose to a woman who is NOT loyal, or will ONLY be loyal to HER career and whims.
Let’s add the degree grabbing years up. In the case of a woman, they represent prime years of childbearing lost to a classroom. In the case of a man, those are years of investment leading to better earning potential, economic stability and the ability to provide for his wife and family.
Here’s the DLS (Dirty Little Secret) that our modern age tends to leave out of the marriage equation: Childbearing chances (aka the biological clock) are better for younger women, not older. No wonder many of our mothers and grandmothers had the sense to wait until AFTER children were born, weaned and reared BEFORE returning to school and/or the workforce, should they--and their husbands--agreed that such a return was ‘in the best interest’ of their family and household.
Women: Wise UP! What good does it do for a woman to have ‘it all’ if she knows nothing about God, submission to her husband and family loyalty?
LOUSY ROLE MODELS:
Frankly, I’m amazed at the number of young and older women, who claim to be modern in thought but are LOUSY role models. Here’s my short list. We have ‘business women’ who say it’s OK for a woman to ‘emphasize her assets’ to get to the top, or, doing prison time is not a ‘bar’ to being a success in business. We have female politicians who are shrews to the first degree. Next, we have the ‘syncoratti’; female pop rappers/hip hopers/singers who sing one message and act another. Finally, we have the female athlete (usually a woman of color) who is doing her best to ‘fulfill’ the same visual and sports stereotypes that have damaged men of color. Don’t shout me down when I’m writing well!
Whatever happened to the housewife? The Missionary worker at church? The PTA mother who turned failing students--and failing schools--around by her presence and hard work? Not held to be cool and ‘with it’. These roles were good enough for our OWN mothers and grandmothers of years gone by to aspire to model. Proverbs 31 is a great place to find more!
As one preacher noted years ago: You can LOSE what you GOT by trying to GET what you ALREADY have!
Yes, I feel I have to make a comment here, and it is NOT a criticism of your thoughts, as written in your article.Men are the providers, women are the nurturers, You don't need a degree to undertand this statement. But, the roles have become blurred. Is it through selfishness or necessity that women HAVE to work, nowadays? Can she and her family really sustain a certain lifestyle on one wage alone? This is a tough call, Mike. I agree with you that females should have self-respect. This in my opinion, is a given.My gripe is, why does the female feel alone in responsibility? Surely it takes two to tango?
Should a female make an error and finds herself in an inappropriate relationship,pregnant, where does the male fit in? He can shrug off this responsibility, as he feels she SHOULD have been 'savvy' enough not to let this happen.
Surely, Mike, it's a two way street?