Family

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A young lady commented in her discussion with her friends that she wanted to marry a pastor. On a surface level, it may indicate some levels of spirituality or love for God. However, it was not, because subsequently she said that pastors are expected to fast often, so she will be less frequent in kitchen – Costly assumption.

Unfortunately, she would be disappointed if she eventually marry a pastor and find out that pastors do eat! This may be as frequent as anybody. May be we should ask pastors’ wives for confirmation.

A lot of single often approach marriage with many unrealistic assumptions, many of which are costly. Unfortunately, majority may not be weaned from these digested errors and therefore, continue with them even after their wedding.

One of the attitudes that easily erode trust, love and understand at home is when someone takes his or her spouse’s strength and sacrifice for granted. These good gestures may be shown or displayed to ensure peace, comfort and fulfilment but not recognised nor appreciated by the spouse. Even though they are his or her responsibility, these should be appreciated each time the spouse endeavour to fulfil these duties. Such gesture will encourage your spouse to always want to do this.

Sacrifice is one of the currencies at home. There is no successful home without mutual sacrifice from her members. These sacrifices should not be seen as weaknesses or foolishness. They must be acknowledged and appreciated.

Familiarity, lack of contentment, self centeredness and pride are common reasons that aid spouses take each other for granted. We should not for any reason look down on our spouse for whatever reason. Such attitude will not encourage him or her to release God given potential.
Apart from taking strength and sacrifice for granted, it is also not proper to take his or her needs and love for granted.

Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

“A husband should fulfill his marital responsibility to his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband” Holman Christian Standard Bible.

Taking your spouses sacrifices, strength, graces, love,needs and even weaknesses for granted is a form of abuse!

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