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Topic: ALL'S WELL THAT ENDS WELL (01/23/20)
TITLE: Against All Odds
By Laurie Staples
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Bob hates questions like this. They make him skittish. He thinks I have a "right" answer in mind and if he comes up with the "wrong" answer, it’ll give me fits. But I kept pushing and he finally answered, “I’d like to relive our wedding day.”
Which happened to be the wrong answer. It was not a good day, it was filled with tension and Fiddler on the Roof music. A play I never even liked. Sadly, I let everyone else decide almost every detail of my big day. My sweet Aunt suggested some appropriate songs, and I said any of them would do. I was horrified when they started belting out "Sunrise, Sunset" at the rehearsal. Why didn't she tell me every song was from Fiddler on the Roof? Well, it was a little too late to change anything by then.
Bob said he only chose that day because he wanted to go back and change everything about it so that it would be a wonderful memory for me. I told him that part of the "rules" were that you couldn't change anything, you had to relive it just as it was, so he needed to come up with another day. He wouldn't.
I put a great deal of thought into which day I would choose for myself. I told him I would like to relive the day he first told me he loved me. It was one of the happiest days of my life. Truly. I could hardly believe that Bob Staples loved me, of all the girls that had a thing for him (and there were many), he loved me! It was very intoxicating.
If I had gotten a peek into what the next 35 years would bring, I would have done an about-face and pranced out to the tune of one of those Fiddler on the Roof songs.
How fortunate that God doesn't allow us see into the future. Because if I had walked out I would have missed out on experiencing the miraculous ways He has healed our marriage, making us stronger and more dependent on Him than ever.
I would have missed out on the miracle of our marriage surviving an unplanned pregnancy with a severely impaired child. A pregnancy Bob begged me to terminate until God miraculously intervened and convinced him our baby was meant to be.
From that intervention until now, Bob has only seen Brett as a gift from God, with a special purpose. He considers Brett the "glue" that kept us together. He never complains or resents the fact that we will be tending to Brett's every need for the rest of our lives...this in spite of the fact that we get absolutely nothing back from him...not even so much as a smile.
I'm ashamed to admit, I don't always view Brett the same way Bob does. Of course, I love him with everything I have, but sometimes, I'm overwhelmed by the enormity of it all. I mourn the fact that he doesn't respond to us. I envy the freedom other couples have—to travel, to go out on dates, to sleep in and only worry about taking care of themselves.
On those days, I resolve to be grateful. I am grateful Brett is content and healthy, but I am most grateful for our marriage. I'm convinced it wouldn't have survived had not God chosen to give us Brett.
After his birth, we were told that close to ninety percent of marriages don’t survive having a severely impaired child, and yet God improbably used Brett to heal our marriage. As difficult as our experiences have been, I wouldn't undo them if I could. Because they made us who we are today. They revealed the strength of our union, the depth of our faith and our love for each other has never been stronger.
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