TITLE: The Benefits of Forgiving
By Iris VanDeventer-Whitney
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I hope maybe this will be a solace to someone.
Benefits of Forgiving
Many years ago I was wrongly accused of stealing. The hurt and humility has traveled with me through the years. I was hurt and shamed in front of my classmates. Why, then I ask, should I be required to forgive the person who was responsible?
Now, we are told to forgive seventy times seven and it is said, ‘forgive if you are to be forgiven.’ There must be benefits in the act of forgiving, or why should we be asked to forgive? It would not affect my accuser, who possibly didn’t realize the hurt she had caused; she was trying to protect a friend. But, she is a false accuser and will be until she dies.
So then, if there is to be a change, it must be in me. If I forgive; she will never know; it will be solely for my benefit. The question returns. Are we self rulers, is our well being in our hands? If I say I forgive her, but hold a grudge and don’t wish her well, is that forgiveness?
As humans beings we are more than flesh and bones. We have our hearts, our minds, our emotions and the soul with-in us. Each thought or action causes a reaction; and all the missiles from outside bombard as well.
The act of forgiving portrays many qualities that is self-healing. In forgiving, we are showing love, concern and compassion. There is awareness that we are our brother’s keeper. The fact we have been hurt or damaged, does not release us from the responsibility of reaching out to others in spite of circumstances.
There is peace of mind and contentment when the welfare of others becomes our concern. There is healing in our bodies when our hearts are free from hate and the weight of heartache. The creative spirit that lies with-in each of us can bloom and take wing.
A forgiving, compassionate and loving heart not only benefits the owner; it benefits all that come in contact with one. I want that for myself. I will forgive.
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