Scriptural Reading: I Corinthians 7:8-11
‘‘And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.’’ Matthew 19:9 (KJV)
I remember growing up, I never saw my uncle and aunty neither quarreling nor fighting in our presence as kids. Whatever the issue was, they resolved it in their closet. Jesus Christ was the foundation of the home and as kids, we were made to teach the Bible at a very tender age. The issue of divorce was never an option and the word of Christ took tap roots in our lives. We were made to understand that divorce is not good for believers as we can forgive one another and pray for our partners in every area of their weaknesses for them to become better citizens of Heaven.
From our scriptural reading where we read from in the book of I Corinthians 7:8-11, admonishes us that it is not good for us to remain unmarried if we cannot hold ourselves and that for those who have married already, it is not good for both parties to separate from each other. However, when it comes to the issue of divorce, the only condition that can lead to divorce to take place is on the ground of sexual immorality. When there is mutual infidelity from any of the partners, divorce can take place and none of the partners can remarry except one of them dies, then the other partner is at liberty to remarry. As long as both parties are alive and if they get married to different partners whatever they are doing is adultery according to the word of God. And no adulterous person will make it to Heaven.
God is a God of unity and that is why we have the Holy Trinity, where God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit dwell together in unity, and this is what God expects from us to stay united with our husbands and wives. Whenever there is conflict, then, peace, progress, and unity will always be far from possibility. There is joy in living together and there is power in unity as well.
Do we feel like walking away from our marriages and heading towards an unknown destination? Then, let us take a deep breath and pause, and have a rethink and hand over everything to God in prayers and allow God to take charge. When we feel like contemplating divorce, here is an anchor scripture to hold on to as a tool for comfort. ‘‘Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.’’ Ecclesiastes 9:9 (KJV). God hates divorce.
Dear Lord Jesus Christ, forgive me of all the mistakes I have made in the area of divorce and help me to return to my first love through your Holy Spirit Divine. Amen
Patience, tolerance, and prayers in marriage are tools that conquer conflicts and keep divorce at bay.