I was once in a church where everyone was at peace with each other and if you weren’t then you better do Matthew 18:15-17. The signature of a real church is that its members actually bring forth their issues of hurt or disagreement to each other to resolve.
I actually once brought an issue with someone before the elders and we worked it out. There was crying but the friendship actually grew afterwards. So, I am not afraid of confrontation of the righteous variety.
I’ve said this before that when I was in High School my dad would ask me my opinion on controversial issues. We didn’t always agree but he had an ability to ‘agree to disagree’ in a diplomatic way. When we came to an impasse then he would let me completely express my view, and then he would end the discussion on a topic we both agreed upon.
Few people have that ability to let people have their own opinions. Most people try to make you into their temperament and/or come into alignment with their perspective.
You will find that most in the body of Christ will not walk out that scripture. They will call someone a Jezabel and ostracize them before they will walk out that word.
Church is a place to heal first and then serve. Please get that in the right order because it can be ugly when a severely wounded person ministers. Granted, most of us are still in progress. There is not a ton of Believers who are at a place of solid wholeness and then the process really never ends.
This peaceful church had about 75 members. That’ an ideal size. I have to brag on God here that all the women got along. There were no cat fights or mean-girl-ism. This is truly a reflection of the kind of leadership we had.
I am not walking by faith when I say that women can get along well in the church. I have lived in it. Here’s an interesting scripture: Esther found favor with everyone who saw her. Esther 2:15
Okay, Esther looked good in face and figure. This normally is a set-up for women to get jealous of other women. Plus, she was surrounded by a harem of pretty girls. So, how did she rise to the top?
First she gained the king’s favor by choosing the things he liked. We aren’t really told what those things are but we can deduce that we can gain favor by choosing the things King Yahweh would have us choose. We can let go of our ideas and plans and go with God’s.
About 15 years about I was given the word that I would give words to governmental figures. I tried not to cry. The prophetess could tell it was a hard word for me and the whole group tried to comfort me saying that it was a good gift. I put on my brave face and sat through the rest of the service.
I asked God for confirmation and shockingly got it. I moved toward it even though it was not my cup of tea. It took many years before I got to a place of enjoying the process of submitting to that ministry.
I’m not saying this for anything other than inspiration. I don’t even know or care if others like me today. I used to cry a lot because the words I gave from time to time would bring rejection.
My training consisted of being in contradicting settings. There was a time in my life where I was extremely popular in one setting and extremely unpopular in another setting. This taught me not to believe either press report. I moved on to just doing my assignment.
I’ve had several people try to recruit me into their ministry. Most times it was because they thought I wasn’t doing anything. It’s almost funny. I had to get past that issue as well.
Much of our training is learning to say no to things that we are not called to even if everyone else is doing it. Plus it is also learning to move into a new season with new training when the time comes. Some people are meant to stay in the same ministry all their life but others are meant to move on for specific training until they reach their destiny.
If you are called to be an apostle then you will be trained in all five of the equipping gifts. Some people like to stay in their favorite ministries but actually they need to become better-rounded. Some mature in their gift and simply go deeper. The challenging part is to let go of the known for the unknown and we all have to move in that direction if we are to mature.Take some time to think about this ladies: Are you a mean girl or an Esther? You don't have to be like classic American female culture. You can rise about the masses and become an Esther. You can be as wise as a serpent and has harmless as a dove.