Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—“so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Ephesians 6:1-3 NIV
Ah, we are no longer children, so this passage is not applicable to us……not so fast there. “Honor your father and your mother.” Do we as adults still honor our father and our mother? Once one is out from under the roof of their parents, it can be easy to vent frustrations from childhood toward parents when we are adults.
This passage does not say that we need to be in agreement with all the views of our living parents. But, God does expect us to honor our parents. This does not change when a parent becomes deceased either. One is still to honor their parents once they are gone.
Remember part of the person you are is from your parents. They raised you. If there were some issues during the years of rearing, one can work on resolving those issues in adult years. Still, we are to honor our parents.
Keep in mind that this command from God comes with a promise attached. We need to take God at his word. So, even if we are not in agreement with our aging parents, or hold grudges against deceased parents, we are called by God to honor our parents.