Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 NIV
This is not an easy passage for which to provide comments. Today, the equal rights movement for women has done much to influence how women perceive their role in marriage. Many women today wish to have careers rather than be stay at home mothers. I wonder, if a young woman wishes to be career oriented and does not wish to be submissive to a husband, would she be better suited to remain single?
The passage says that the man is the head of the wife. This does not mean that he is the ruler, or that the woman blindly adheres to every word of the man. Being submissive to the husband does not mean that a wife is to compromise truth, or biblical based principles. The wife’s first and foremost submission is to the Lord. She is also to be submissive to her husband, just as the husband is to be submissive to the Lord.
Decision making is not a unilateral case for married couples. Ideas and thoughts are to be shared, but, when the final decision is made, it should be that of the man, assuming truth is not set aside, and biblical principles are not compromised.
Men, you are not to demand submission from your wife. Submission of the wife to the husband is a biblical principle, dating back to Adam and Eve. Men must realize that there is significant responsibility that comes with headship, and it is not to be taken lightly.
Sometimes seeking equality can be dangerous, especially in the life of a Christian. In an earlier post, I spoke of not comparing the gifts we have received from the Lord to those received by others. God’s commands are just that: His commands. We are not to adjust them to fit our lifestyle or cultural. Being submissive does not mean being a doormat, nor does it mean not sharing your desires or views on a matter. But, being submissive is something that we are all required to do by the Lord.
If a woman is having trouble with submission to her husband, she can approach the Lord in prayer, seeking His word and guidance. If the woman has a Christian woman friend whom she is close to, she can ask for how her friend deals with submission. It is true that in today’s society submission is harder than before, yet, we must adhere to the word of God.