“Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:32 NLT)
The act of forgiveness is a lot more difficult thing to do than it seems. Many times when we harm others and afterwards say “sorry”, we hardly recognize their pain and how difficult it is for them to forgive us. It is very easy to ask forgiveness, but it is very, very difficult to forgive.
I suppose we all have gone through both experiences in life: 1) to ask forgiveness and 2) to forgive someone. In this article, let us consider some points about forgiving those who have done wrong against us.
At first, it may seem extremely difficult to forgive someone, who has cheated us, wronged us, misguided us, threatened us, misused our weakness… the list is long. But the relief and joy that follows after you forgive someone is so strong and solid that you cannot even imagine.
Many times our speech and style do not go in equipoise. What we speak is totally different from what we do. But as Christians we ought to have a right balance between our words and works. If I am, as God’s instrument, asking my readers to forgive others, then I myself ought to forgive others.
People who are volatile find it difficult to be disciplined by the experiences of life. Each of life’s experiences is designed in order to learn something from them and to practice the lessons in our daily living. When we do wrong, we must wholly learn that if we can do wrong, others also can do wrong. With this in mind, it becomes easier to forgive.
Next, we should be able to see the truth that no one is perfect. We all do wrongs. We all need to forgive each other and be forgiven. The vicissitudes that come along the path to Christian maturity are often hard to deal with. The difficulty in forgiving is one among them. But when we surrender our emotions to God, He heals all the pain and brokenness, enabling us to forgive.
It is a very hard thing to preclude a determined person from doing something. If you determine in your heart to follow God’s rules, no one can stop you from obeying the act of forgiving others. Moreover, we should all remember that God in Christ has forgiven us. It was not childish play for God when He sacrificed His very own Son on the cross. It was painful! While Jesus hung on the cross to procure redemption and eternal life for us, we cannot imagine the pain and agony that was in the Father’s heart. To this extent, He loved us!
Who then are we to bear a grudge against someone? Have we lived our life in perfect righteousness in order that we cannot understand the weakness of others? When it’s difficult to forgive someone, LOOK AT THE CROSS!