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Topic: Rejection (11/15/04)
TITLE: Handling Rejection
By Delores McCarter
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The best way to deal with rejection is for us to be willing to improve ourselves and make adjustments when necessary. When we take the opportunity to change things in ourselves to meet our needs and desires in life, doors will open for us. Rejection does not have to be a death sentence. It can be a blessing in disguise.
When I graduated from high school, I wanted to work full-time before deciding to go to college. I had great typing skills and desired to work in an office. Despite numerous interviews, I failed to get a job offer. Finally, a manager told me that I was too young and needed more experience. I remember being so frustrated. How could I get experience if no one would hire me? I looked at how I could make changes in order to secure employment. To make a long story short, I ended up joining the Navy, which ended up being a great choice for me. I had reached my goal and secured employment for four years.
It is heartbreaking when people refuse to forgive and forget, instead choosing to nurse old wounds from the past. I know of people who haven’t spoken to friends or family members for many years. Some people have tried fighting rejection all of their lives, but the most effective way of fighting it is to release the frustration, forgive them that offend us, and move on with our lives. The sting of rejection does subside over time.
We all experience things in life that we like and dislike, so we all experience rejection. However, if we continue through life rejecting everything new that comes across our path, our lives can become very limiting and stale. God wants us to be fruitful and open to new experiences. If we limit ourselves within our own experiences, just imagine how limiting we are to God.
As I grow closer to God, I realize how the Master gives us free will to either serve Him or reject Him. We cannot have it both ways. When we lay down our carnal lives on the altar and ask God to be the head of our life, we are essentially rejecting the things of the world and asking God to do His work in us.
Luke 9:23-24 states: “then He said to them all, ‘if anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it.” This can be difficult to grasp initially, especially for new believers, however, it does become easier as we stay the course. It is the first step to obedience as well as a wonderful opportunity to allow God to work through us as we grow in Him.
There are people in this world who have decided to go their own way in life. Instead of living a life of serving Christ, they have chosen to walk a very different path. Some tend to stumble along the path of unrighteousness from doubt, confusion, and chronic indecision. There are others who specifically choose to walk that path in life. God gives us a choice. We can choose life or death.
Even though God is a loving, and holy God, he also requires obedience for those who choose to serve Him. In Hebrews 14:33, Jesus states that “whoever of you does not forsake all that he has cannot be My disciple.” We can either serve God or reject Him. However, if a person continues the downward spiral of rejecting God, they would experience rejection by God, and wouldn’t that be the ultimate rejection?
(The scripture passages are from the New King James version.)