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There is a lot of truth in the old adage, “History repeats itself”. Just take one look at some of the issues. Problems will always be awaiting an answer, but what happened to having mutual respect for the individual. What happened to attending to other people’s needs instead of separating you from them because of social acceptance? What happened to simply agreeing that we will disagree? What happened to the love that children used to receive from their parents? Today, we live in a time where just about everyone is working crazy hours and practically abiding by a routine of work and sleep. Did the displaced anger from the workplace and the frustration of presiding unmet needs devour the quality time that used to be for the children or us? Did the workplace stressors devour the (reserved) time we used to spend with our companion? It is seems as though we forgot who we are, with our wants and needs. Did we forget that we are entitled to a life filled with the things and people we cherish and adore? Moreover, have we forgotten to take the time to breathe?
After helping to take care of the elderly kin in my family for the past 7 years or so, I realized that I have forgotten about my interests at heart until I was asked the question, “It’s Friday night, whatcha’ doing after work?” It was as if a light bulb went off in my head when I instantaneously realized it was a while since I really had a real night of unlimited fun. From then on, I made up in my mind that I am to incorporate fun into my routine. Not that I would need to have a friend to hang out with, but I ought to do something that I like even if it is just going to the mall, the movies, crocheting a blanket or doing some sort of craft. Moreover, making it a habit of doing something fun on the daily, if not, weekly basis would be best.
What does this have to do with romance, being a significant other, or coupled? It pays to be mindful of the things that are fixable and what things only Divinity can change. Man is not God. Humanity is imperfect and a member of this society. One of the biggest flaws in relationships is the fact neither mates can fix all the problems or lift every weight off our shoulders from our past. Another major flaw is the fact that integrity must be rooted at the foundation of any relationship in order for it to withstand the winds of life as a team. The “Don’t Tell; Don’t Know” attitude does not fit in a healthy relationship. Nakedness as far as being truthful to our mate about our faults, vulnerabilities, beliefs, strengths and weaknesses is an absolute must. Thirdly, communication, pay very close attention to the nonverbal cues just as well. Identify and attend to each other’s needs as humbly as you know how.
Above all, be quick to listen and slow to speak. That’s an act of true love!
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