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Topic: TEARS - (as in crying) (10/04/04)

TITLE: ITíS MY PARTY, AND IíLL CRY IF I WANT TO
By Zillah Williams
10/07/04

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In April of 1963, vocalist Lesley Gore recorded a song called, "Itís My Party, and Iíll Cry if I Want To". The story is of the birthday girlís boyfriend turning up at her party engaged to someone else. What a birthday present! The chorus runs:

It's my party, and I'll cry if I want to
Cry if I want to, cry if I want to
You would cry too if it happened to you


Most of us will have experienced, if not that particular form of betrayal, something else which had equal power to devastate us.

Once, when I was the Vice-President of a small community organisation, something was done which I knew to be wrong. Quite correctly, in my view, I followed up the matter and sorted it out, but instead of being commended, someone proposed a motion at the next Committee Meeting which had the effect of censuring me for my actions and of supporting the person who had made the mistake! Not one Committee member took my part, and the motion was passed. To say that I felt hurt and humiliated is an understatement. I sat through the remainder of that meeting crying inside.

A sleepless night followed, and the next day I felt quite ill. Later, two people who were there told me that they thought I had done the right thing! As the saying goes, "Now they tell me"!

I resigned from my position as Vice-President. Had I wanted to, (and boy, did I ever want to!) I could have caused quite a stir within the organisation over what had happened. Trusted friends advised me against that course of action, and I took their advice.

Jim Glennon, when stressing the importance of forgiveness in his book, "Your Healing Is Within You" says that, "the devil of unforgiveness Ö is that it is so often justified". In other words, we must forgive even when we are right and the one who has hurt us is in the wrong. Strong words, but oh, so important. Our very salvation and our healing, depend upon our exercising forgiveness.

"Itís my party, and Iíll cry if I want to!" The lyrics wouldnít sound half as catchy if changed to, "Itís my party, and Iíll forgive if I want to"! Such a sentiment wouldnít have attracted the sympathy of the party-goers, but might have earned their respect, and would surely have resulted in a happier outcome, in the long run, for the birthday girl.

423 words

© Zillah Williams.


Member Comments
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darlene hight10/11/04
Isn't that the truth! It's especially hard to forgive when we are right and the hurt was undeseverved.
Lynda Lee Schab 10/11/04
Great points, Zillah! I loved the quote about the devil of unforgiveness being that it's usually justified. How true!
Great entry! Blessings, Lynda
Kristin Slavik10/11/04
Zillah,
I really wnjoyed this article. How true that it is harder to forgive when you think you were right. Well done.
Kristin
Lucian Thompson10/14/04
Zillah, very nice article. You make a good point with this message.
L.M. Lee10/14/04
oh girlfriend...i've been there myself! learning to forgive is something we often get a life time to practice and do homework on! :-)
Teresa Lee Rainey10/15/04
Zillah, I love your message here. Although it hit awfully close to home! I'm usually tempted to throw myself a good pity party first and then get around to the forgiving...
Glenda Lagerstedt10/16/04
Yeah, it really hurts. Great job, and I don't mean just the writing part of this. I mean the living part of it! Thanks for sharing.