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Topic: Power (05/10/04)
TITLE: Power of Words
By B Price
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You are Dumb! You are retarded! You will not amount to anything! You are a Failure! You won’t make it in this world!
Some kids grow up being hammered with these words on a regular basis. When this happens, they grow up suffering with low self esteem, shy, withdrawn, etc. When a child lives daily with these powerful words, they start to believe they are really true. They feel that their parent wouldn’t say these things to them if they weren’t the truth. Why does this have to happen to begin with?
A parent is supposed to be loving, caring, and nurturing. When a parent says these powerful words long enough, not only does the child start to believe them, the parent does also. These words become not only mental but verbal abuse.
I can recall a little girl, that the only thing in the world she wanted was her father’s love. Until the day her father passed way the only words she received from him was that she was “OK.” All she heard from him were those powerful hurtful words on a regular basis.
A good portion of her life she struggled to try to figure out why her father hated her so much. She worked hard to get those powerful words out of her head. Most of her life she tried to make herself into someone her father would approve of. That never happened.
The power of words can be so strong it leaves many effects on children. They then turn to drugs to try to ease the pain they are feeling, and sometimes turn to gangs to receive approval.
God had his own plan for this little girl’s life. Thank goodness He was watching over her from the beginning. She didn’t turn to drugs, but she did go astray from what she was taught. She looked for ways to make someone love her. The life for this little girl was so bad that the first man that asked her to marry him she jumped at the offer. She couldn’t believe that anyone would ever want to marry her. Her father told her on many occasions that she was not worthy of loving. She believed that if she was not worthy of her father’s love then no one else could ever love her. After many years, her marriage went bad and her husband turned her away. She began doing things to get approval of some kind. She was willing to do anything to get someone to love her. At the time she didn’t realize that want she was getting was the wrong kind of approval.
During the worst night of her life, she felt she was living in a nightmare and she couldn’t wake up. God reached down that night and pulled her out of her pit of despair. She struggled to get past the feelings that her father instilled in her and to believe that God loved her so much. That night she gave her life to the Lord. God showed her that He did approve of her and loved her just as she was. This was the best love she could ever feel. She finally found the approval she had searched for all her life.
Shortly after this event, the Lord brought another man into her life. This man loved her just the way she was. This kind of love was hard for her to accept in the beginning. Over the years, they have had to deal with many scars that were made due to the powerful words in her childhood. She now feels that she came from the depths of hell never being able to win her father’s love.
The power of these words comes from Satan. He does so much damage with it to wreck our lives. People tend to stay away from the Lord because they have been conditioned to not see a loving father. Little girls tend to relate their relationship with their “heavenly father” to the relationship they had with their earthly father. There have been studies on this and preachers have preached sermons on this.
You see the reason I personally know the true power of words is because I was that little girl.
I now pray that parents who use these powerful words will come to know how much damage they are causing, and realize that this is a form of abuse. I also pray that the people who are going through struggles of believing how their heavenly Father could love them will come to understand that He can and does. We can rest assured that our heavenly Father created us special for a reason. All we need to do is submit to the Lord and be thankful that He is our one and only “true” Father and His love is all that matters...