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Previous Challenge Entry (Level 3 – Advanced)
Topic: At Witís End (02/13/14)

TITLE: Taming the Tyrant: 5 Steps Toward Toddler Transformation
By Christina Banks
02/20/14


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My two-year-old stands in the center of the floor, poker straight, with his face raised to the ceiling. High-pitched screams echo through the house, his once sweet face contorting with rage. The whole neighborhood now knows that I turned off his favorite show. Iím living under toddler tyranny.

The tyrannical twos can be difficult as a child pushes against the barriers hindering his egocentric universe. Five principles have helped me survive through the challenging transition from infancy to childhood.

Calm

Some days, it seems the smallest things will set off the tyrant. As the tantrums start, I feel my blood pressure rise. How dare this small person, who I carried within my body, treat me in such a way? While I want to yell and scream at him, I know I canít. Giving into the temptation will only result in a power struggle. Instead, I take a deep breath and pray for strength. I go to my son and speak quietly and calmly. I talk about his frustration without mirroring it. Soon he calms as well. A soft answer isnít easy, but works wonders (Proverbs 15:1).

Clarification

I thought it would be fun to go to the library as a surprise, but when I ask my toddler to help clean up the toys, a fit ensues. The abrupt change in plan has disrupted his emotional equilibrium and though he loves the library, he canít handle the transition. Iíve learned the hard way that my son canít switch from one activity to another without some warning. By talking about what to expect ahead of time, and giving him some advanced warning, Iíve been able to reduce the number of tantrums we experience throughout the day.

Congratulations

Being two is a negative experience. Everyone tells the toddler ďno.Ē Donít touch that. Donít go there. No. No. No. Is it any wonder that ďnoĒ seems to be the tyrantís favorite word? I make a point to comment on the things my son does well. I thank him for cleaning up his toys and being a good helper. I talk about the kind way he treats other children and how fun he is to play with. His disposition improves under this positive reinforcement. On the opposite side, I ignore the bad behavior. As long as no one is in danger of being hurt, I walk away and let him have his tantrum. When heís calm again, I come back and reiterate my love for my son.

Consequences

When the tantrums start, I long to make it stop. I hate confrontation, but living with a tyrant tot means conflict all the time. At the end of the day, I am completely worn out. While I want eradicate the difficult situations, I let my son experience the consequences of his behavior, even when it means more screaming in the near future. We talk about expectations during calm periods and clearly state the consequences for not fulfilling those expectations. My son has missed a chance to play at the park on several occasions because he threw a tantrum in the grocery store. Heís learning that good behavior gets praise and poor behavior has consequences.

Consistency

Consistency is the hardest part of training tyranny out of the toddler. Constant exposure to explosive emotions wears on my sanity. There are times I just want to give up and let my son have his way. Iím too tired to do battle but I have to. It is my responsibility, given by God (Proverbs 22:6). I must be consistent with my discipline (the training of my tot) as well as showing him my love. I spend a lot of time praying for the strength needed to meet the challenges of toddlerhood. Without consistency, the other principles lose their effectiveness. Consistency is the key.

I live with a two-year-old tyrant, but he is also a treasure. Iím doing my best to train him in the way that he should go. With Godís help, weíll both survive this transition.


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Camille (C D) Swanson 02/20/14
I thought this such a clever entry to the topic which you've certainly nailed! Mighty fine job of bringing the "days of a two year old" to life.

Great job.

God Bless~
Lillian Rhoades 02/20/14
You have discovered the secret of good, Scripture-based parenting. I like the methodical way you used the 4 "C's" to organize your piece. Your writing was clear and precise.

Thanks for sharing the lessons you've learned.






Shann Hall-LochmannVanBennekom 02/27/14
Congratulations on ranking 18th overall!