Before the Sizzle Starts to Fizzle
Keeping the sizzle in a relationship has little to do with the physical act of sex. It has much more to do with keeping your “significant other” significant on a number of levels. Your spouse must be important to you spiritually, mentally and emotionally, as well as physically.
Conflict arises when needs are not being met. Meeting each other's needs is a very important thing that keeps the sizzle alive. It's magic words like please . . . thank you . . . you're welcome . . . I'm sorry. It's appreciating the things that your spouse does, instead of always focusing on what they do not do.
Keeping the sizzle is remembering that the Bible does not only say “wives be submissive to your husbands.” It is remembering that the Bible also says “husbands love your wives like Christ loves the church . . . willing to lay your life down for her.”
Keeping the sizzle is remembering that “opposites attract.” Don't expect your spouse to be your clone. Respect each other's differences, and agree to disagree peacefully.
Keeping the sizzle is never being too much of an “old married couple” to hold hands. It is the look that communicates volumes, because you are so connected to each other that you don't need words.
Keeping the sizzle is seeing your spouse for who they are . . . but being willing to look past their flaws. It is giving each other the freedom to be less than perfect. It is inconditional love.
If you like your eggs hard, your toast burned and your bacon greasy, don't expect your spouse to be overjoyed if you make her breakfast “your way.” Sometimes keeping the sizzle is as simple as a lightly toasted piece of bread and a crispy piece of bacon.
Keeping the sizzle is knowing that your own happiness is co-dependent on the happiness of your spouse. There is truth in the old adage “if Momma ain't happy, no one's happy.”
In these last days when “the love of many will grow cold,” keeping the sizzle is a choice that will have to be made on a daily basis.
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