The Mad Dog of Alcove
“Are the girls all lined up on the couch?” came the gruff retort. “And the boy too?”
“Yes dear,” I replied. “They are all here ready for you”.
“All right. Now listen to me. This foolishness has to stop, I won’t put up with it any more. These toys and clothes cannot be left lying around anymore. It looks like a pig sty in here. Your mother can’t do all the work in this house. If you want to live here you will have to carry your fair share. Do you understand me?
All nodded yes. Two girls were crying, two were smirking, one was outright laughing and the little boy was sucking his thumb and twisting his hair. This was a scene which had occurred many times before. Then the final command was, “Mother spank these kids and make them do what I said.”
“Yes, dear.” I always got the last word in.
Then he promptly stomped off feeling that he had mastered the situation. My husband, in all the 56 years of our marriage, never laid a hand on any of the kids. He couldn’t bear to punish them for anything. Nor could he stand to see them cry. So Mother was the enforcer, the bad guy.
Now three of the girls had him figured out and always thought he was humorous as he barked his commands. They laughed. Two of them, no matter how often he barked, were still afraid of him and the boy just really didn’t care. He got away with murder because he was the petted and pampered only boy. Even to this day the three girls laugh, two cry and the boy just smiles and says, “Yes Dad”.
Probably the closest my husband ever came to spanking one of them is when the fourth in line flatly refused to obey him. He grabbed her by the arm and pulled her up stairs and lectured her sternly. When she started crying, he told her he was sorry and gave her a big hug and a dish of ice cream. Then he came down and told me to make sure that she didn’t get to play with her friends any more that day.
I’m surprised that the kids weren’t terrified of me, but they had my number also.
However, through it all, our children grew up knowing they were loved and wanted. So many of the children of today are just ‘throw-away kids’ that nobody really wants. They are intruders into the life of the adult parent. The children were born, not because they were wanted, but because the parents were careless one time.
As we take into our home those children that are angry, abused, unloved and lonely, we see the hopelessness of these souls. They act out because they just want to have bounds put on them and to be loved for who they are. A lot of bites could be better used as barks if only the mom and dad would just understand and love these precious children.
Too many times there is no true father in the home. This situation is almost always disastrous to the child. God made the family unit as a secure entity, we need to follow his directive and keep our children whole in His sight. There would be less anger and destructive behavior in our children if only they were loved according to God’s principles:
‘Spare the rod and spoil the child.’
‘Parents Provoke not your children to anger’
‘Children Honor your mother and father that your days may be long upon the earth’
‘Bring up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he shall not depart from it.’
Search out the scriptures and see what God says about raising children. Then don’t just tell them, teach them by your living example.
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