Hire
Writers
Editors
Home Tour About Read What's New Help Join Faith
Writers
Forum
My Account Login
Shop
Save
Support
Book
Store
Learn
About
Jesus
  

Get Our Daily Devotional             Win A Publishing Package             Detailed Navigation

The HOME for Christian writers! The Home for Christian Writers!
The Official Writing Challenge

BACK TO
CHALLENGE
MAIN

INSTRUCTIONS

how it works
submission rules
guidelines for
choosing a level

ENTRIES

submit your entry
read current entries
read past entries
challenge winners



Our Daily Devotional HERE
Place it on your site or
receive it daily by email.





TRUST JESUS TODAY

TRY THE TEST



Share
how it works   Submit

Previous Challenge Entry (Level 2 – Intermediate)
Topic: Luggage (08/15/05)

TITLE: Fostering a Relationship
By
08/16/05


 LEAVE COMMENT ON ARTICLE
 SEND A PRIVATE COMMENT
 ADD TO MY FAVORITES

It is not our works or deeds that change lives, but our ability to build relationships that truly will impact another.

The contemporary radio station which typically plays in my car became a thought provoking prod one afternoon as I drove home. Interrupting the faith-filled and uplifting songs was a commercial for a well-intentioned ministry in which they were requesting used luggage. They wanted this luggage for foster children who were being moved out of their homes and into foster homes. The announcer mentioned that through this ministry they had hoped to make children who had to be placed in foster care to feel better about them selves.

Sorry, but I became skeptical. Not because of the fact that I had not thought of this ministry or that I had issues with the church that had came up with the idea, but rather because I had walked a mile in the shoes of a foster parent. My immediate reaction was, “Yeah, great, love them from a distance—give them a used piece of luggage and tell them that Jesus loves them. It just isn’t going to get it.” I felt ashamed for my private outburst, but knew in my heart Jesus did not hand people things and hope they would feel better. He personally tended to their tangible, physical, spiritual and emotional needs and He loved on them. He didn’t give them some ‘thing’; He gave them (and us) Himself.

My husband and I are not reluctant to admit that we flunked foster parenting. Foster parenting was our idea. God had something better in mind. We became foster parents with one special teenager in mind. She carried a lot of her own ‘baggage’ into our home, but we were determined to make her learn to love. We are strong minded people and we are usually quite determined to accomplish the goal we have set out to achieve. Fostering this child would be easy for us. We could not have been more wrong. She ran away, after only three months of being in our care. It broke our hearts to watch the sheriff place handcuffs on her and help her into the backseat of his squad car. She was taken to juvenile detention and then back to the children’s home from which we had rescued her. We felt like we had failed.

What we realized too late was that we expected her to become like us. We wanted our Christianity to change her and mold her into our expectations. The black clothes, the body piercing, the wild hair colors were things we tolerated but did not truly accept. We honestly, had tried to slap a band aid on her deep emotional problems by taking her to church, we expected her to immediately appreciate all that we had done for her and we wanted her to be Godly, like us, instantly. Kind of like a microwave dinner.

Quick fixes and simple solutions will not change hearts nor change lives. It might appear to be happening on the outside, but the deep rooted change only comes through sticking it out through the tough times, and letting that person grow into the person God wants for them to be. Offering prayer, unconditional love and encouragement is a good place to start. However, it cannot stop there. One must be willing to build and sustain a relationship. Loving people from a distance might keep your hands clean but it won’t change lives. You realize the vastness of God’s grace when you are able to love people despite their open sores and nasty habits.

Our foster child now calls us her God parents. All praise is offered unto Our Heavenly Father and His redemptive grace. Forgiveness and restoration have taken place. In less than 3 weeks (but who is counting!), she will be packing her luggage to come home. She has spent the last year in Korea, while serving in the Army.

I still stand in awe at what God has done for this child, and it was an eye-opener to realize He could do it without us and our good intentions. However, I am so thankful He has still allowed me to be part of her life. And now, I love her with or without her baggage.


The opinions expressed by authors may not necessarily reflect the opinion of FaithWriters.com.
If you died today, are you absolutely certain that you would go to heaven? You can be right now. CLICK HERE

JOIN US at FaithWriters for Free. Grow as a Writer and Spread the Gospel.


This article has been read 607 times
Member Comments
Member Date
Marcell Billinghurst08/22/05
A very touching story and lessons learn. Praise God for what he has done in the life of this child. May God bless your time together when she comes home.
Shari Brian08/22/05
Thank you for sharing this story. "Been there...done that (12 times over a seven year period)," and I'm so glad about your great ending! It doesn't always work out so well.
Rita Garcia08/22/05
Thanks for sharing this story of love from your heart, our children are so precious. Much love, Rita
Dorothy Purge08/24/05
This is a great story. It touches me in a very personal way having adopted a child who is now a grown woman. It wasn't easy but I learnt along the way what love is all about.
Theresa Kissinger08/24/05
What a honest and uplifting story. I'd say that God did an incredible work in all of you, I wonder if He is finished with this chapter yet?