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Topic: fathers (06/06/05)
TITLE: Train up your child
By Norma OGrady
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Do not be afraid. No one deserves the exalted title of “father,” but by God’ grace we share in His fatherhood.
I do not know if young men today are more irresponsible than previous generations, but I am certain they do not want to be. However, our culture of cohabitation makes it so easy for them to avoid the responsibilities of marriage and children.
Taking perceptive young women need to recognize how this culture goes against their deepest interests. How "sexual liberation" has led to a worse oppression of women.
The Lie behind Sexual "Liberation" has not led to equal-opportunity sexual nirvana, not to our daughters' liberation, but to their debasement.
Why? Because this enterprise was based on a lie -- that women want the same thing from sex as men, that to be men's equals, women must approach sex as supercilious as men do.
Traditionally, adults in our society sought to protect young women from male sexual exploitation in two ways. First, they made rules: Decent boys treat girls like ladies; college students live in single-sex dorms. Second, they respected and encouraged girls' natural modesty. In their view, modesty -- the quality which leads human beings to avoid sexual displays -- acts as a kind of armor to protect girls' sexual vulnerability.
Modesty, provides a crucial counterweight to girls' desire to please boys, and their tendency to place great importance on personal relationships. Far from oppressing girls, modesty puts them on equal footing with boys, by prompting them to avoid casual sex while they search for a suitable lifelong partner.
Today we have stripped our daughters of these traditional forms of protection.
How confining! Modesty? Get real.
We buy our girls postage-stamp size tops and skirts, and drive them to movies that glamorize promiscuity.
In our schools, we support sex education programs that approach sex clinically, break down modesty, and dismiss embarrassment about sexual topics as a sign of immaturity. And then, puzzled, we run to the bookstore and buy the latest volume about young girls' declining self-esteem.
It's time to face facts. We have created a pornographic culture, and flung our daughters into it. A pornographic culture is not just one where pornographic materials are available, but one which accepts the ideas about sex on which pornography is based.
Such a culture views sex merely as an urgent bodily appetite, "whose satisfaction has no more affect on our spiritual nature -- our personhood -- than eating and drinking or defecating." In reality, however, sex is a profound act of human connection, "which defines, alters, imposes on the personhood of those who engage in it." By trivializing sex, we trivialize our own humanity.
Is it only girls who lose in a pornographic culture?
No, boys suffer too. For starters, they grow up confused.
If boys are taught that girls always want the same thing they do from sexual encounters, and that it's sexist to assume otherwise, they are much more likely to be impatient and uncomprehending of a woman's "no."
Ultimately, a pornographic culture injures boys in a far more serious way.
If girls collude in their own exploitation -- rather than making sex contingent on a permanent, loving commitment -- boys will founder in their journey to manhood.
By delaying sex, girls inspire boys to strive to be worthy of them.
They help boys learn to consider others' needs and desires, and prepare them to assume the obligations of home and family.
By ignoring this great truth, our pornographic culture has helped turn Eros into a buffoon.
There is a famine in the land. So said Amos in another time and place (Amos 8:11), but he wasn’t speaking about bread and water, but about a hearing of the words of the Lord. We live in a land of plenty but we are being destroyed by lack of knowledge. King James Version) tells us.
I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me,
We can turn glamorized promiscuity around. We can stop this pornographic culture by first teaching our own son's and daughter's the truth about God's design and plan for their future.
We can begin by looking at God's road map for our life "the Holy Bible".
PROV 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
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