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Topic: Angry (08/02/07)
TITLE: How To Deal With Angry People
By Kris Belfils
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There are so many snares the enemy will use to entrap us and put us in bondage. One of the biggest is anger. Anger is stemmed from selfishness. You might be an angry person, or know someone who is.
I tend to lean on the mercy and grace side with people and ignore others in this category. But through much experience dealing with people who have anger in them, I have found the best thing to do is to be courteous, but never allow them to be a close friend.
You may say, “Isn’t that rather harsh?” I can understand why you would say that as the Bible does tell us to “love our enemies” (Matthew 5:23). I am not talking about showing love, but embracing and associating with those that have a constant temper and a critical spirit all the time.
Proverbs 22:4 – 25 (Amplified Bible)
“Make no friendships with a man given to anger, and with a wrathful man do not associate, lest you learn his ways and get yourself into a snare.”
When I recently was reminded of this passage of scripture, I thought, “Wow, isn’t that a little extreme?” But, if we don’t protect ourselves from the snares of the enemy and really guard against them, we will fall into the snare of trying to help the angry person, and possibly take on their viewpoint. If we do this, we will believe a lie.
“Friendship,” when translated from Hebrew is; “raw-aw', A primitive root; to tend a flock, that is, pasture it; to graze; generally to rule; by extension to associate with: companion, keep company with, feed, use as a friend, make friendship with.” We are to keep no company with, to tend a friendship, eat with, associate with no one that is always angry.
Angry people are draining. They will drain your joy. They will drain your patience, not to mention your peace. It is okay to pull away from them as a friend, but still love them and wish the best for them. Really, it is a command in Proverbs to make no friendship with them.
Do you have an anger problem? Do you easily get upset when things don’t go your way? Do you expect people to cater to you? Usually there is a root cause for the anger. If you have an anger problem, ask God what is the root of it. This is a hard place to be because you have to be honest with God, and even more challenging, yourself. Once you have asked God to show you the core of your anger, be open to what that still small voice speaks to your heart. When you receive your answer, ask God to heal you, and to change your way of thinking. This is a process, but well worth the change that will come. It might be painful. Are you willing to press in to your pain to find out more about yourself? The Lord will never leave you during this process. He will never leave you ever. So, be comforted that you will be in the arms of a loving God who knows all about you.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 (Amplified Bible)
“Do not be quick in spirit to be angry or vexed, for anger and vexation lodge in the bosom of fools.”
James 1:19 & 29 (Amplified Bible)
“Understand [this], my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener], slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry. For man’s anger does not promote the righteousness God [wishes and requires].”
Ephesians 4:31 & 32 (Amplified Bible)
“Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind). And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.”
These are just a few verses concerning anger. I am sure if you did a study on the word you would find out more then you could ever imagine. Allow God to show you any anger you might be holding onto. The very thing you hold on to will become a part of you before you know it.
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