I’ll get straight to the point, how confident are you? I am not talking about hiding behind external things like your figure, looks, career, and wealth. Taking away all the superficial stuff, are you really confident in who you are?
One of the ways to find out how confident you are, ask yourself-
Am I a fashion victim? Would I wear something that does not compliment my figure just for the sake of being in vogue?
Would I get into debt ‘keeping up with the Jones’?
Do I compromise my values just to be popular?
Am I using food, or shopping as comfort when I feel low?
Do I always feel inadequate and addicted to perfectionism?
I f you answer yes to any of these questions, I will encourage you to look deeper and see where your confidence lies. Our confidence should be built on who we are in Christ anything else is a shaky foundation that is changeable any day.
So how do we deal with insecurity?
Grasp the fact that God loves you unconditionally
God has loved us with an everlasting love and promises to never leave us nor forsake us. In today’s society nearly everything is performance based, people would love you only when you please them. Employers are only happy when your sales are high, parents may only be proud of you when your grades are good. Subconsciously we tend to approach God with the same mentality. Instead of resting in His love we switch to works, deceiving ourselves that it would please Him and make us more worthy. Faith in His unconditional love frees us to enjoy our liberty as a child of God.
Know who you are in Christ
You are valuable, Jesus Christ paid the highest price for you and that makes you priceless. Take a walk in the park, or sit by the lake and think about it. Do you know anyone willing to die for you if you were on death row? Look through the scriptures and search for all the ‘In Him’ and ‘In Whom’ scriptures. They reveal who you are to God. You are a joint heir with Christ, a child of God and that makes you royalty, so hold your head high and recognise that you a child of the King.
Accept and celebrate yourself
Sometimes we are our own worst critics. We all have weaknesses, however the key to accepting ourselves is celebrating the good things about us. God has promised to perfect that which concerns us hence, looking back at the progress we have made in life gives us the energy to move forward instead of getting stuck in the negatives. Encourage and compliment yourself, be the best YOU possible. Very soon people will notice your radiance and celebrate you too.
Exercise your gifts
Everyone has gifts, things that we do with minimal effort. Your talent is usually what you love doing and would not mind doing for free. Exercising your gift brings joy. It is also a way to serve God and the body of Christ. Confidence level is usually boosted from the satisfaction of a job well done. If you are not sure what your talents are, start trying things you have not done before. It could be painting, dancing, or you could be really good with children. Exercising your gifts will open a new world to you and opportunities become available that would not have if you let those talents lie dormant.
Pour yourself into others and take the focus off yourself
Learn to reproduce yourself in others; it makes you feel better about yourself. Tell people about what Jesus has done for you. For instance I had great difficulty passing my final exams in accountancy. Instead of looking at all the time I wasted struggling to pass those exams, I help other people in different ways to succeed in their exams, from coaching to practical advice and praying. I am using what used to be an adversity to inspire others.
Being Confident is a decision YOU have to make. It does not happen overnight, but as you make choices to confront your fears and put the principles shared into practice your confidence will grow. Line upon line precept upon precept you will look back and be amazed about how confident you have become.
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