There were so many fabrics to choose from: chiffon, organza, taffeta, silk, satin…but I didn’t choose any of them. I was cheap and purchased swiss-dot instead. It looked pretty enough in its own polka-dotted way, but it just didn’t measure up to the beauties reserved for the big spenders.
Determined to make it work, I laboured over my dress for hours, wondering if I’d ever get it right. The picture on the front of the pattern I was trying to follow didn’t look at all like my dress. It began to take on a completely different shape altogether. My own design, I told myself with pins sticking out of my mouth trying not to cry.
Little did I know then, 19 years ago, that God would use my wedding dress as a way to show me what married life would be like. Perhaps if I had realized the comparison, I would have doled out more cash for the silk.
Instead, I struggled along, piecing things together, altering the pattern, and putting up with problem after problem.
At the time, I expected married life to be bliss. I thought everything would be okay because we loved each other. Well, I got a rude awakening. Not everything went as planned.
I learned that you get out of marriage exactly what you put into it. If you’re stingy with your money, time, affections, then you get a less than perfect result. If you encounter a problem, you can either run, or deal with it head on. Don’t give up…. just improvise, or in other words, alter and reshape what you already have. Don’t go looking for something else.
Make it work.
It’s hard to say those words, but it’s so true. I could have given up making my dress. I could have thrown the whole thing in the trash. I could have given up on marriage a dozen times with all the fights, complaints, and difficulties throughout the years…. (Lord knows I had reason)…but I decided to persevere.
Some would say my wedding dress was mediocre with its inexpensive materials. I would have to agree. But to me, what it represents is worth far more than dollars and cents.
God knew how it would measure up…. to me and to my marriage. Many a time I had to piece things together. I had to put up with imperfection and improvise. And all these problems weren’t just because of money issues; most of them arose because I chose the least attractive means to get the job done.
In my dreams, I think of myself purchasing a magnificent wedding dress worth thousands of dollars and wonder how that would have affected my marriage today.
Simply put, it wouldn’t have prepared me as well.
God knows everything. There is nothing insignificant with him. He always knows what’s best for us and sees the finished project before we even get one glimpse.
I like to believe, in his humour, he did just that for me. If I wouldn’t have struggled, I wouldn’t have appreciated what is right in front of me.
A good thing doesn’t come to us without hard work nor will we cherish it if it’s just too easy.
If you ask me if I loved my wedding dress, the answer is yes.
It was the perfect fit!
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