We have all suffered from it from time to time.
Right from early childhood most of us have either been the favoured one or suffered from not being the favourite.
From childhood I can recall that my brothers always seemed to be favourite’s in my parent’s sight or at least that’s what my childish heart thought.
They got to do things like go fishing with dad or mow the lawn in the sunshine while we girls were relegated to household chores deemed appropriate to our gender.
The catch cry of “That’s not fair, they are your favourite’s “ rang out in my heart if not in words.
Later at school the inequality seemed to continue.
For whatever reason there always seemed to be favourites in the classrooms, playgrounds and backyards.
For the fortunate few, their place in the sun assured, life appeared to be good, especially for those of us on the outside looking in.
Even as the years marched on and work replaced school, there seemed to be some who fortune smiled upon, while the rest of us could only envy them.
Now as a fully matured adult (at least I hope so) with the wisdom of the years behind me I can now analysis what I thought was favouritism and the truth.
It seems to me that wether you are the favourite or not there are pitfalls in both Places.
How many of us can truly know another’s walk, favoured or not?
If you are the favoured one you could be in danger of becoming proud.
You can become insensitive to those around you not blessed with the same advantages and giftings as yourself.
Even in church there is the danger of pride if what we do becomes who we are. Some positions attract attention and seemingly favour.
On the other hand there are pitfalls attached too not being the favourite. Envy of another’s acheivments, a mental downgrading of their efforts in our minds.
The selfish voice that cries “Of course he got the raise he’s the bosses favourite.”
Or “He doesn’t deserve that, he’s always rubbing up to the boss.” I devalue another’s efforts because of my own low self esteem and how I value myself.
Low self esteems “ I don’t deserve it, I am not talented enough” is not humility its just hurt pride.
So for me the answer is not in whether I am the favourite or not but in how god views me.
To see others and myself through his eyes and not my own distorted mirror.
That’s the challenge of each new day.
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