Walking into the sanctuary of the church building, I scan for my prospects.
There's Robby. He's liked me for at least three months, but who's counting? I like him, but I don't LIKE like him. A haircut would do him a world of good, and he's a bit too short for me we're basically at eye level and I'd prefer to gaze up into my husband's eyes. Yet he has a heart of gold, and he loves Jesus, so I'd say yes if he asked me out. Which he won't.
Yikes....better move off to the right, as I can see Aaron on the left side of the room. He likes me a lot probably a bit too much. I catch him staring at me constantly, and he will hang around me within a few feet when I'm talking with others. If he has a moment to butt in, he'll inevitably ask me personal questions and if that falls flat, at least where I'm going to hang out after church tonight. I've dropped subtle hints and not-so-subtle hints that I'm not interested but to no avail.
Oh! There's John....my latest crush. He just joined the church a few months back, but he's followed Christ since the age of fifteen. He's got a sparkling personality, brilliant blue eyes, and passion for kids, just like me. It seems as if he enjoys talking to me, and he's always asking me questions. But is it just to get to know me since we work together?
So plays out the game of charades, singles style.
I like Boy A, but Boy A doesn't like me. Boy B likes me a lot, but is too scared to ask me out. I drop hints left and right to Boy C, but he's clueless even if I make him dinner at my house! Boy D has no less than 34 girls believing that he might possibly like him.
It's all in the indirect cues.
I can't even pretend to know what the guys are thinking....all I know is from the girls' perspective. Body language says it all. Leaning in toward the person, maintaining eye contact, laughing frequently at appropriate times, briefly touching an arm or shoulder, smiling like it's going out of style all very important nonverbal cues. Asking questions about one's childhood and past, personal interests and what one likes to do, current week's schedule, tonight's schedule all very important verbal cues. Girls understand this. We're watching and listening!
Problem: there's absolutely no pattern with the boys.
One guy gives the cues but wants to be just friends. Another gives the cues but asks another girl out. Yet another gives the cues and won't take no for an answer. Another gives the cues but fears rejection, so he'll never ask.
A girl can give cues to a guy for two years straight and he still bounces from relationship to relationship, asking other girls who don't really like him but will give him a chance. Another girl can relate with absolute neutrality to a guy, and somehow he thinks she must like him. Still another simply has to smile, and she has three dates lined up in 10 minutes.
Oh the anguish of waiting for one's spouse! Will I ever like a guy that likes me back, and equally? Will I ever have a date that I don't count the minutes till the end? Will my heart recover from years of crushes that never went beyond Hi?
(Will I think my husband's the hottest guy on the planet?) That's what I'm really thinking, of course. And that both of us will delight in the fact that we're the luckiest couple ever. If I EVER find him.
Back to the present. I guess I ought to find my seat and get my mind focused on Jesus....and....who's that guy? I don't think I've seen him here before. Wait, can't see oh, there's his left hand and the ring finger is bare! Possibilities await....does he love Jesus? Does he like hiking? Reading? Baseball? The symphony? I'd better go meet him and ask.
Someday I'll win, but for now, bring on the game!
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