Last night you asked me a question in your anger and it was: “What is your purpose, Mom!? To torment me?!“ I have thought hard on that question, and this letter I’ve written will hopefully shed some light on an answer for you.
You are a blessing to me. Did you know that? When I look at you, I don’t just “see” a daughter. I see a reason for my being. My life has always been a “good” life. Sure, I’ve had my ups and downs, but for the most part I have been tremendously blessed. Wonderful parents, great siblings, a good education, fun-filled moments and a good career. I met your father, we fell in love, got married, and I truly thought life couldn’t get any better. Then YOU came along, and my life suddenly became…clear. As you know, your father and I had a very hard time conceiving you and, at one point, were told to “stop trying” and adopt. But, the Lord heard our tears and prayers, and along you came. Healthy, happy and beautiful, inside and out. Everyone has a purpose in life, everything happens for a reason…..as best as I can tell, at this moment in my life, you are my purpose. My job is to shape you and mold you into a woman of faith. A woman of Godly character…one who loves her Lord. He has great things planned for you, sweetie. I can’t tell you what they are, but one day He will reveal them.
I know it’s not easy growing up with Godly standards in this day and age, but, we (your father and I) would be failing you, ourselves, and most importantly, the Lord, if we let you live by the standards of the world. When you were 10, you accepted Jesus as your personal Savior, and with that He claimed you as one of His own. Do you think He wants you to disrespect yourself by listening to the kind of music that refers to women as female dogs? Or, dress like a woman who walks the city at night, looking for empty thrills and payment? Or use language that would make your mother’s hair curl? (Ok…ok…I know I have naturally curly hair, but, you know what I mean! :o)
I know our “rules” may seem like torment to you right now, but, you have to trust that your dad and I have your best interests at heart. I know you get sick of hearing, “You’ll understand when you’re older”, but sometimes that’s just how it is. I don’t want this letter to become a lecture…we can talk about these other issues later. I am going to stay on task and keep answering the question you initially posed to me…what is my purpose.
My purpose is to love the Lord, take ownership in the gift He has given me (that gift would be you) and raise you to seek Him, know Him and love Him. Period.
I suggest you turn to Him when you are angry, and quietly listen to see if you can hear what He is telling you. I say quietly, sweetie, because silence is not something that comes easily to you (!) and you need to be able to calm your soul before you can truly hear what He has to say.
He has blessed you with so many talents. You are funny, bright, articulate (that’s how the problem with silence occurs :o), talented, and a wonderful daughter. He has given you an amazing, functioning brain that has the ability to work through problems and issues with grace and wisdom. Do not allow outside influences to muddle your God given talents. Don’t let them become a wedge between your relationship with Him, and us…your parents.
I love these verses, because they offer great wisdom for both the “kids” and the parents:
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth. And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:1-4)
My prayer is this letter I’ve written has not “provoked” you, but given you the insight into how I view you. My most beloved treasure…my daughter, MY purpose.
I’m here when you’re ready to talk with me.
I love you.
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