Take this test to discover how well you deal with embarrassing situations. Your score at the end will indicate if you need sensitivity training, therapy, or should be teaching a class on the subject.
1. You are expounding to a friend at church about how awful the sermon was today. In response to her wide eyed look you turn around and see the Pastor’s wife behind you. You…
a. change the subject and pretend this didn’t happen
b. apology to both wife and friend, making a mental note to confess this later and meditate on Proverbs 18:7*
c. what is embarrassing about this? It was an awful sermon ... of course people are going to talk about it
2. You notice everyone is averting their eyes as you approach the church front doors. There you see your reflection in the mirror. Oops…got as far as donning a silk blouse this morning, but you are still wearing pajama bottoms. You…
a. growl at your husband and children, berating them for not noticing your wardrobe deficiency as you hustle everyone to the car
b. smile modestly to each passerby and sneak into the back pew of the church as quickly as possible
c. glare at everyone as you march to the front of the church, feeling superior about your fashion boldness
3. Just as the pastoral prayer starts, your three year old, newly graduated from infant nursery to staying in the service with the family, shrieks “my toy,” punches her brother, and disappears under the pews. You…
a. poke you husband in the ribs and whisper, “your turn”
b. sheepishly crawl over everyone with apologies, grab the errant toddler and hurry her out to the nursery
c. let her go, proud of your open parenting style and confident in your assurance that everyone else finds this as adorable as you do
4. You are pleased the visiting missionary family has accompanied you home after church for dinner. As you open the door, you smell burnt meat. You…
a. throw out a one liner about what a lousy cook your husband is, and serve the rest of the meal vegetarian style
b. ask your guests if they prefer pepperoni or ham on their pizza as you reach for the phone
c. serve the burnt offering without comment; after all, they are missionaries
If you answered mostly a, you have a strong inclination towards denial (otherwise known as blaming others.) Taking responsibility for your actions is a good antidote to embarrassment. **
If you answered mostly b, either your ability to be embarrassed serves you well, or you know how to take tests. Check out opportunities to share your knowledge.
If you answered mostly c, this in-your-face I’m-above-embarrassment attitude needs a serious reality check. Immunity to embarrassment is a symptom of narcissism. While you are waiting for your first therapy appointment, reading the book of James might be a good place to start your recovery. ***
*”A fool's mouth is his ruin, and his lips are a snare to his soul.” Proverbs 18:7 ESV
**”For each one should carry his own load.” Galatians 6:5, NIV
*** e.g., “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” James 3:17-18: NJKV
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