TITLE: Do You Ever Feel Anger?
By gene hudgens
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At one time or another we all do. It’s human nature and there is nothing we can do to prevent God’s Will.
If we learn to deal with and control anger we can in the long run protect and preserve our true self. It is good to vent our anger, but venting alone will not solve the basic problems that cause our anger. We must search for and deal with the basic problems.
However, if we do not effectively deal with our anger we will increase the potential for our anger to become destructive.
If we lock anger inside our body we likely cause physical problem such as muscle tension, high blood pressure, insomnia, headaches and even digestive disorders.
However, we must avoid righting a wrong through serious communication when we are feeling the heat of anger. This is a time when we will be ineffective as we try to communicate, because our body is responding with increased blood pressure and breathing, which affects the oxygen in our brain.
We all need to take the time to evaluate our feelings and moods, since anger can be disguised as anxiety, depression, guilt, resentment, etc.
Our human emotions are interconnected. If we surpass any emotion we chance endangering our overall emotional well-being. Anger can be used for healing, but is misused it can destroy love and relationships.
We all likely learn to repress, deny or avoid our anger and we all need to accept anger as an emotional fact of life. At the same time we must attempt to identify what is causing our anger and then change the situation that causes the problem. We can never change the past or any problem we endured in the past.
As a child we were likely neither equipped to deal with our anger nor allowed to express our anger. If we were prevented from expressing our anger as a child, these memories and feelings can easily be our anger emotions now. Today we can ask ourselves if our feelings remind us of feelings from the past. Often our most intense anger today is about past situations.
All of us must believe that no one else can make us angry just as no one else can take our anger away. People can not change each other. We must all solve our own problems. We all need to learn to communicate with others. Be blunt and tell others what they do that bothers us and ask them to be honest with us too. Listen to others and not be threatened because their anger belongs only to them. Be especially sensitive as you listen to children express their anger.
Once we learn to deal with our own anger we can then turn our attention to helping others. It’s very important to realize when we have deep rooted anger that we can not solve alone. Never be ashamed to seek professional guidance.
We all need to daily ask God to give us courage and the ability to recognize and solve our problems.(c) Gene Hudgens
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