TITLE: If Only My Mom or Someone Had Told Me, # 24 (c)
By gene hudgens
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Wise people, old and young, find that a happy, healthy and successful life is, to a big extent, “a big bowl full of philosophy.”
Those of us that are wise enough to believe “age is wisdom” or “wisdom comes with age” and are wise enough to at least listen to advice from older folks and are wise enough to read what philosophers have written for 4000 years; will certainly have the edge on their contemporaries that are unwise.
Most adults want to share good advice with younger people and help others avoid mistakes that they may have made.
This advising or teaching begins when a child is still a child. Moms and dads continually stress, “Be careful, get enough sleep and rest, clean your plate and stay healthy, brush your teeth, be nice to everyone, but not over friendly, apply your valuable time to studying…don’t waste a minute, and on and on.
The best gift you can receive from anyone is a big book on philosophy, which is full of “old sayings”.
The best investment you can make as a young person is to buy a big book on philosophy, which is full of “old sayings”.
As we become teens and young adults the advice we receive will naturally pertain to live as we will live it now. We are no longer children. These are the dangerous years and too often schools, families, and friends fail to prepare us to handle our new world.
Our biggest challenges will be tremendous and will include every type of relationship we will have. Our moral beliefs and desires will be challenged every day. We will be bombarded with crises that make us think, worry, and cry…as we try to be good and happy.
Girls will have problems with their best girl friends and boys will have problems with their best buddies. Naturally both boys and girls will have relationship problems with sweethearts.
There will be huge decisions as we decide what is right or wrong and who is right and wrong. Emotions will always run high. We have to compare our goals with our immediate desires. It’s times like this that we all need to pray to Jesus the most for advice and guidance. This is the time to have the courage to ask advice from an adult that you trust such a parent, teacher, doctor, minister or friend.
Even after receiving the finest advice we are still confronted with making decisions.
Now is the most important time to trust “self”. We must trust our selves, but first carefully weigh the teachings we’ve learned and the advice we’ve received.
It’s likely that the most tears we’ll shed will be over the ones the love the most and are closest to; a best friend, sweetheart, husband or wife. It’s here that we we’ll do the most soul-searching as we examine our conscience with regard to our values and motives.
This is the time we will need the most strength and we will gain the most strength from our closeness with God.
God will not do everything for us. We must have common sense and wisdom and use good judgment. We must be sensible, logical, reasonable and intelligent. We must be able to care, to feel grief, to feel interest or concern for another person, to share and to genuinely love (our self and others).
But the very most important thought is to always thank God for allowing you to be you. This equates to always doing what we know He wants us to do with our self.
We must have self-discipline, self-respect, and self-esteem. We must be of one color and have a single character throughout. Our behavior must make God proud. We must practice self-abandonment and avoid self-absorption. We must have self-confidence and avoid self-conceit. We must practice self-denial and avoid self-destruction. We must seek self-enrichment and achieve self-fulfillment and enjoy self-identity and definitely avoid selfishness. It’s important to enjoy self-reliance, act self-poised, exhibit self-possession and feel self-respect.
If each of us will strive to make “self’ better and make God happy…and follow the beautiful guidance in Rudyard Kipling’s poem, “If”…we will be able to cope with the heartaches in our love life and relationships.
© Gene Hudgens
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