TITLE: If Only My Mom or Someone Had Told Me, # 20 (c)
By gene hudgens
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Love is the Most Precious Gift or Possession a Family Can Every Have
This article is intended to be an eye-opener to all children of all ages, especially teens and young adults.
In life almost everything is inversely related…in one way or another or at one time or another. God created each of us as an individual. Therefore we each feel, think and act differently.
Most parents and guardians want to always care for their children and those they protect. In most cases they sacrifice to accomplish this. Their sacrifices can be small or extensive, apparent or disguised, inexpensive or expensive.
Monetary gifts to a child are nice and all children enjoy Christmas and birthday gifts. But all children need to be sensitive to every gift they receive each day of their life. It is a gift when a child can feel secure in a home that is filled with love. It is a gift when a parent or family member is ‘just there’ to listen and offer advice or sit on the bed side and pray together. It is a gift when a parent is there to offer support during a crisis with a friend, or in school or with a love problem. It is a gift when clothes are washed and ironed, food is bought and prepared, needed transportation is provided.
However, there is a limit to everything. There is justification for everything. Every person on earth has feelings and can expect a return in kind for what they have done and how they have loved and cared for another person.
It is unacceptable for a child to be disrespectable to an adult; especially a parent that shows care and love. It is unacceptable for a child not to offer (before being asked) to help around the house and yard, or cancel a social event when an ill parent needs comforting and assistance. It is unacceptable for a child not to do ‘little’ things to express “a return in kind” for love received.
It’s unacceptable for children to turn their backs on parents when the parents are old and have problems associated with old age. Schools and doctors can assist all children and young adults in preparing for expected old age and health problems by offering advice on special insurance and services offered by local, state, and federal agencies.
No on can question that teens and young adults have a life of their own and can not be expected to devote all of their spare time or money to caring for a disabled or unhealthy parent, but in most cases a willing child can make life easier for a person by showing genuine love, concern and effort.
It’s also true that some adults ’even parents’ are totally impossible to deal with. Regardless, a child needs to attempt to deal with problems, coordinate with agencies that are qualified to handle these ’impossible’ adults, and try to make these impossible persons know that they are still loved. No one can deny that there is a limit on ‘this side of the fence also’, but a genuine effort must be exerted.
The pro and cons on this issue are endless. There are exceptions to every issue and situation, so we must be somewhat heartless at times when dealing with the extremes of a particular case. However, most cases are in the midstream and can be addressed if we have a genuine desire to do so.
I feel certain that almost every person knows in his or her own heart if he or she has been totally honest with self, another person, and God.
Love is the most precious gift any one can give or receive. God our Creator and Jesus prove this.
Children that are fortunate enough to grow up in a house full of love are lucky. They likely have a desire and put forth an effort to always care for their parents. Parents that have children who show affection and love likely want to care for their children with daily love and with their monetary possessions when they die.
It is sad to read about families that haven’t spoken with each other or shown love for one another for years, but suddenly have a family reunion at the funeral of a parent; as they anxiously wait for the will to be read.
Some children are very shocked when they realize that the parent has given all of the material wealth to a near-stranger who showed care and love during the last months or years. © Gene Hudgens
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