If you have ever been to my church you would have noticed that my dear pastor has a dark feeling towards the music ministers by the fixed scowl on his face and his constant scratching of his ears when they are ministering. I keep wondering and asking the heavens why? It’s as if he wakes up each day to frustrate them and stand in the way of their ministry. I took time to critically analyze this unsavory and tasteless situation, and this was what I came up with.
1. Limelight Syndrome:
Have you noticed that he wants to be seen as the ‘star of the show’? I wonder when ministry became a show thing. He basks in the limelight. For example, I have noticed that he almost wants to be the bride during a member’s wedding ceremony; the new born baby during its dedication; even almost wish he was the deceased during burial ceremonies all because of the attention, honor, respect, affection and compassion these all receive. This man’s overpowering desire is that such attention should have been directed at him. He wants to be everything that attracts attention – the limelight syndrome.
For everyone who makes himself great
will be humbled, and everyone who
humbles himself will be made great
This is a very destructive ailment. He fails to recognize that what he is telling us his sheep is that he is the only one that counts, all-important, and nobody should think otherwise. At times when he is at his lowest ebb, (I know this when I see his eyes roving and casting dark shadows on everyone and everything going on in the service), you’ll find him deliberately ignoring the excellent performance of his music ministers so that they don’t receive the praise due him. I find this more disturbing especially when the music ministers are effective in their operation and we are so blessed by their ministry. I could imagine him wailing “Why are they so annoyingly effective? I must do something to stop them.” He starts working and scheming against his helpers in order to make them look small. I discovered that all the music ministers who have worked with him (and left) over the years (and scores of them I might add) have found it nearly impossible operating effectively in their ministry because of his manic attitude. He frustrates them to the point of mediocrity. At times he leads the worship service, and actually sings, not because the music ministers are not effective, but because he just can’t allow them ‘shine’. To him it’s all a show.
My insecure pastor is wary and suspicious of everyone around him. He is always afraid that we his flock might leave him and move to another church. And when some from among us do succeed in breaking his colossal hold, he sends them forth with curses! He never lets anyone leave without a fight by trying his best to destroy the person’s character and employing spiritual subterfuge. This fellow is not confident of his abilities even though he is an exceptional preacher. You would almost fall off your seat with laughter when he preaches because he uses hilarious analogies to convey his message. But this great preacher watches his musicians closely like a cat, doubting their loyalty, and hating their confidence and security. He is haunted day and night by thoughts of failure. As a result, he proceeds to make ministry difficult for the musicians and other ministry gifts that are there to help him by creating an atmosphere thick with fear and distrust. He sets members against each other through rumors he spreads in order to create camps, making sure at least a camp belongs to him and the others come to him for counsel. He creatively introduces distrust amongst us and leads as the father of chaos. He repeats what is told him in confidence about a member to the member involved, and covers his tracks by saying he did it to find out more information about the issue. He sees everyone as a potential enemy and a prospective deserter. So what better way to be on top of things by keeping them busy using his creative skills in crisis creation and management? What an ingenious man!
3. Negatively Critical:
The pastor that has nothing good to say about his music ministers is a pastor that has nothing good to say about himself. My pastor fails to recognize that the music ministers are a reflection of who and what he is. When he looks at them and tears them down it’s his own self he is demolishing.
It is your face that you see reflecting in
the water and it is your own self that
you see in your own heart
Oh! How I would have loved to tell him that each time he engages in his constant pervert negative criticisms he indicates how he feels and thinks about himself. Each time he tells them they are useless, he is telling himself he is useless. Each time he says they are not as good as pastor Tony’s musicians, they’ll believe him and remain, as he is, a failure and absolutely pedestrian! He has forgotten that they won’t rise above what he is, for a servant is not greater than his master, he is either below his master or just like his master.
Help tips for my Pastor
· My dear pastor, honor and fame will come by being obedient to God’s design for your life. You will shine when you stay where God has placed you and do all God has said to do, then He’ll raise you.
· Recognize that what God has made you is incontestable and that you are unique. So, have a high esteem of your gifts and you will be able to equally esteem others and their gifts.
· Insecurity is borne out of disharmony with God’s word. Align your life with God’s word and you will be at peace.
· Educate yourself and be better at what you do. Intelligence wins respect and instills confidence.
· Learn to be thankful to God for what you have, where you are and where you are going. A thankful heart will dispel and destroy every fear.
· Learn to see the good part in everything, and then you will have something good to say about others.
The best thing that you can do is to pray for this pastor. Encourage all your friends to pray for him. Hold your own prayer meetings with him as the focus. Every time you sit down to eat and ask God to bless your food, bless your pastor also and encourage all your friends to do the same thing. Doing these things will change his life.
This is well written. As for the content, one wonders how such people ever get to lead churches. As confronting him doesn't seem to work, maybe all that can be done is to pray for him and the situation.