How do you define beauty? How does the world define beauty? Often, the world’s view of beauty in a person is perfection. The perfect size __________, you fill in the blank. The perfect face, hair, etc. The world’s definition of beauty is often outward appearance only. All of us at one time or another think we do not measure up to the world’s view of beauty. We all have something we don’t like about ourselves. We often may even say we are ugly. Even Princess Diana, one of the most photographed women in the world, did not think she was beautiful.
So, what is beauty? What is God’s definition of beauty? I have often quoted Proverbs 31 to prove that there were Christian Working Moms in the Bible. I was rereading this passage again and a note in my Bible stated, “Did you notice none of the descriptions of the Proverbs 31 woman described physical beauty?” That really caught my attention. The Proverbs 31 woman is often given as an example of how Godly women should live. Look at Proverbs 31:30, “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a women who fears the Lord, shall be praised.”
God’s definition of beauty talks about character and qualities that have nothing to do with physical beauty. Do you realize you can be beautiful without a face-lift, makeover, weight loss, or any of the other things the world tells us that makes us beautiful? Do you spend as much time working on your inner beauty as you do your outer beauty? 1 Peter 3:3-4 says: “And let not your adornment be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” So, what is beauty? Beauty is seeking God in everything you do and reflecting His glory to others. God’s glory reflected to others is far more beautiful than anything the world can imagine. Begin to see yourself as God sees you. He thinks you are beautiful just the way you are right now. He loves you period, no if, ands, or buts.
Now, I have a question for you as a parent. What are you teaching your daughters and sons about beauty? Are you teaching your daughter the importance of inner beauty or outer beauty? Is your daughter learning the world’s view of beauty that comes only in one size or shape? Are you teaching her character can be beautiful as well? What about your son? Are you teaching him to look for girls who have character and a deep abiding faith in God or are you reinforcing a worldview that looks are everything? I think this is a conversation we need to have both with our daughters and sons.
Today, I encourage you to redefine beauty to include your inner beauty as a child of God. Radiate that beauty to everyone you see. Remember God all ready thinks you are beautiful.
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of 2 ebooks, Pearls of Encouragement for Christian Working Moms and Help! My Preteen/Teenager is Driving me Nuts. You can find both of those books at www.christianworkingmom.com. Also, check out her blog and Online Bible Study as well. You can have coaching tips delivered to your email box daily, find out more at http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.
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