Do you feel uncomfortable when you are with someone who is grieving over the death of a loved one? Do you share with others or in self talk, “I just do not know what to say.” We want to say just the right thing or at least not say the wrong thing. It is not easy and we feel so inadequate.
My first time to face death was at the age of twelve. My best girlfriend and I had a childish quarrel and were not speaking. Then I learned that her father had died, following a stroke. I felt miserable...A neighbor called and said my friend wanted me to come to the funeral home. I was scared to go, but I had to. I had no idea what to do or what to say. When I arrived my friend quickly came to me and let me know everything was alright. She was strong for me when I should have been comforting her! I now realize that God had given her grace and peace in her hour of need. She just wanted her friend to be there. I did not need to do anything or say special words. She just needed me.
Four years later my grandmother died and I was taking it very hard. At the funeral home I was sitting with the same girlfriend and her steady boyfriend. ( They have now been married close to forty two years.) He sat beside me holding my hand. He was so tender and compassionate and I have never forgotten. I have shared that experience with grief many times in recognition to his concern. He knew I needed a hand to hold and he made his available.
Do you sometimes feel at a loss for words? When Job lost all of his children, his wealth plus his health, some friends came and sat by him.( Job 2:12-13) They were silent; but they were present and accounted for. Do you sometimes feel at a loss for words? That is no problem; just reach out your hand!
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