“Lo children are the heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward, as arrows are in the hands of a mighty man: so are children of the youth”(Psalm 127:3-4).
The cost of training God’s heritage is very high. But they are worth of the price. Besides, nothing worth having come cheap. To raise up children properly, we require the very best that we can give of our time, efforts, and resources. This is not a simple job at all. Yet, there is nothing as rewarding for a parent as watching the little child of yesterday begin to grow, learn, love and blossom to become a responsible, godly, man or woman. When a child is able to blend well, he becomes an asset, a praise to his family and a powerful weapon in the hands of both God and man. This is both rewarding here on earth and eternity. God testified of Abraham thus: ”For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which He hath spoken of him”(Genesis 18:19). My Christian parents and preachers, how about you? What is going to be the Lord’s testimony about you and your household?
1. GUIDING PRINCIPLES IN CHILD TRAINING
Romans 2:21; Proverbs 22:6; Isaiah 54:13.
Child training is the God’s appointed and only method which can be reckoned upon with certainty to develop godly men and women. If you prune, subdue, eradicate the evil, and develop, strengthen, and encourage, the good, inspiring him with the love of the truth, holiness and benevolence, he will grow up a good godly and benevolent person.
Training up a child in the way of the Lord involves, teaching, giving instruction and discipline. Which must be appropriate to the development stages of the child for it has the desire result.
Teaching a child the word of God is of more value than giving them good education and earthly inheritance.
The parents’ exemplary life for the children at home is very importance in child training. The time spends with them on daily quiet time and family devotion, Bible reading and Bible study, prayer life daily Christian living should be worthy of emulation. Most importantly, our practical Christian living must be pointing them daily to the saving Jesus more than our sermons. Hear what a preacher says, “if you want a garden of good fruits, get the trees young”. “Today’s unchurched child is tomorrow’s criminal”
2. DISCIPLING YOUR CHILDREN
Proverbs 13:24; 22:6
“He that spareth his rod hateth the son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes”(Proverbs 13:24).
Discipline must be viewed as having two functions; that of building up cherished habits in the child, and of modifying and changing habits.
Punishment may be necessary at any age, but if a parent or teacher must resort often to punishment, there is something wrong in his method of discipline. Reward and substitution are the two most effective means of securing desirable behaviour
3. TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE DISCIPLINE
(1) . Consider the differences in guidance and control
(2) Remember to commend the child for desirable behaviour.
(3) Be sure to explain instructions and demands properly to the child. Do not give vague information.
(4) When he flagrantly disobeys, discipline him.
(5) Give punishment commensurate to offence.
(6) Avoid anger in corporate punishment.
(7) Match discipline with the age of the child.
(8) Reassure the child of your love after punishment.
(9) Rewarding the child to stop him from misbehaviour is destructive to discipline.
(10) Avoid using false incentives,
(11) Treat all children equally.
(12) Optimism does wonders. Nothing helps as much as seing the bright side of life, therefore, hope for the better.
“The well mannered child is his parents’ best advertisement” say Meridoth Nicholson
“And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children” (Isaiah 54:13)