Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
2.(fear)If a person cannot wait to have sex until marriage? What might happen when married and commitment is tested? How faithful will they be once they are married? Do they have self-restraint?
3.You can look your kids in the eye and say I waited for your mom/dad and I know you can wait. I want T.J. and Jennifer to save themselves sexually for marriage. They receive enough bad messages from the media and others; I want the big gun testimony, “Do as I did!”
4.No images/fantasies in the mind of past partners. You can have a single-mind for your mate. (this would be a good time to talk about how porn effects a relationship but the topic is pre-marriage sex)
5.Sex rules in a dating relationship! Sex covers all red flags. So a couple does not develop socially, emotionally or spiritually. Sex is the stupid factor in relationships. In the heat of the moment sex does not seem stupid but the out-come has very painful results.
6.Sex removes the dating couple and the male out of God’s chain of authority. God has given men spiritual leadership in the dating relationship. If you make decisions against the will of God while dating, a man will have much more of a difficult time restoring the spiritual authority as a husband. Repentance and forgiveness will be necessary. I still believe in GRACE but I also believe that it is better to obey now then later.
7.As a male we are to protect our mates. This protection needs to start in the dating relationship. If you do not protect her purity, her future and her relationship with God; –now; how will she know that you will protect her in the future?
8.Harmony with God is affected by disobedient behavior. Prayer is the first causality. If you are dating someone and you do not pray together, then there could be a disobedience issue with God in the relationship. If you can not pray together now do not assume you will be able to pray as a married couple. Pre- marriage sex can be a reason that relationship with God is distant.
9.How strong a marriage foundation do you want?
Matthew 7:24-27,"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash."
You have been warned!
My wife and I can testify to the truth that God’s commands are for our blessing and not to harm us! We can also testify that this truth can lead to great sex in marriage.