Was thinking about our conversation last night and decided to write down some things that have been rummaging around my brain. Let me know if you see something missing here, or incomprehensible. There is another one rummaging around, something about kids, but it hasn’t come clear.
1)You can’t trust us not to be ‘judgmental’ or ‘intolerant’, as the world describes these. We believe firmly that there is right, and therefore wrong.
2)You can trust us not to be easily ‘offended’.
a.We strive to let our concern for an action rest on what is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ and not on how it personally affects us or how it relates to ‘what we are used to’ etc.
b.We strive not to pout; not to be ‘put off’ by something that you have said so that we stop talking to you, or avoid you in other ways.
3)You can’t trust us to not share things with one another, regardless of how personal and private. We are, and work towards being, ‘one flesh’. What you have told one of us, you have told both of us.
4)You can trust us to strive daily to pray for you all, to lift up the concerns you have shared (and ones that we have for you) to God.
5)You can’t trust us to go along with whatever you are willing to do, without thinking about their moral implications.
6)You can trust us to strive to judge your actions and our own based on Biblical standards and not our own, to hold and support that which is good, and to reject and discourage that which is bad.
7)You can trust us to strive to hold to those Biblical standards, not bending with every new whim of doctrine that itching ears desire, or molding our behavior into that of the world.
8)You can’t trust us to care if you are ‘happy’.
9)You can trust us to care if you are ‘doing the right thing’.
10)You can’t trust us to sit there and listen carefully while you complain about husband/wife/kids
11)You can trust us to strive to encourage you to be obedient to your husband, to love your wife, to train your children; and to in every way show Gods love to them.
12)You can’t trust us to accept that something is ‘true for you’.
13)You can trust us to think seriously about issues, to work hard at relationships, always striving at finding out what is literally, objectively, true, right, kind, good, lovely, of good report.
14)You can’t trust us to be eager about doing unimportant, trivial things, or to easily understand implicit boundaries.
15)You can trust us to be willing, indeed eager, to sit up till two in the morning talking about important issues, deep heartfelt issues.
16)You can trust us to be as open as you are willing to accept about our own private lives, and as open to your own as you are willing to be.
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