Have you ever been around people who claim to be “Christians”, yet seem incapable of normal conversation without venting anger or stirring up old hostilities? They slander and gossip about others (see – Proverbs 16:28), sometimes even poluting their sentences with ugly vulgarities, or sickening obscenities. This should not be so! (see – James 3:9-10)
Christians (those who reverence the teachings of Jesus Christ), are informed in the Bible as to what God considers proper, godly and acceptable conversation for His children. We are instructed to speak words that are God-glorifying (see – Ephesians 5:19-20), encouraging (see – 1 Thessalonians 4:18), wholesome, and uplifting (see – Ephesians 4:29). Christians are to always focus on the good, shun gossip or slander in any form (see – Titus 3:1-2) and show respect for all other people (see- 1 Peter 2:17) extending grace and love to even our enemies (see – Matthew 5:43-44). We are further admonished that coarse joking, cursing and vulgarity should never have place in our conversations (see – Ephesians 5:4), for the mouth speaks words that reveal the true condition of a person’s heart (see – Matthew 12:34-37). We can pretend all we want, but God’s word declares that the quality of our conversation indicates if our heart really belongs to Him, or if we are just “faking” a relationship we don’t in fact have.
It’s amazing how many people insist on calling themselves Christians, yet don’t follow any teachings of Jesus Christ (see – John 14:15). They want to be thought of as being Christian, but they don’t want to let go of their love for this world or give control of their lives over to Jesus (see - John 12:25 and 1 John 2:15-17). They think their diluted “way” of believing is enough, but the fact is, that believing is as believing does (see – John 15:10), and there’s only one way, __ God’s way (see – John 14:6).
It is so sad to listen to the conversation of a “professing believer” who insists on vomiting out hatred for another human being, or obsessing over some ancient grievance they could never find it in their weak faith to surrender to Jesus and forgive (see – Luke 6:37). Oftentimes, such “complainers” will seek to congregate together (birds of a feather), and there feed and agitate each other’s hatreds, committing murder in their hearts (see – Jude 16, 1 John 2:9 and 3:15). It’s like a support group for the spiritually dysfunctional, _ enablers, “egging” each other on into deeper condemnation. Certain individuals can even be driven to rage at the mere mention of another’s name, _ conduct indicative of a very foolish person. All such people are convinced they have a right to take the low ground, after all, they come first! (see – 1 Corinthians 10:23b). They think their feelings are more important than God’s instructions, all the while Satan is deceiving them and pulling their strings, making them dance to his tune. Such people are on a rocket sled to hell (see – Matthew 5:21-22), because hatred and rage are the enemy’s favorite tools.
All conversations centering around anger toward others bear strong similarity to the kind of mob mentality present at some civil protests and riots. They degenerate from purpose to emotion, becoming hatred feeding off of hatred, growing exponentially until they finally overshadow the original intent. In many cases, toxic conversations are further aided and enhanced by the consumption of alcohol (another tool of Satan), that loosens lips, stills the conscience and dulls the wits (see – Proverbs 20:1). As Christians, we should live by God’s teachings, refuse to take part in angry, slanderous conversations and walk away when conversations become sinful (see – Job 28:28).
The biblical reality is, God expects us to use our ability to communicate wisely, interjecting His goodness and wisdom into the world (see – Colossians 4:6). He doesn’t want us to act like ravenous wolves, attacking, gossiping or slandering others, we should refuse to take part in any such evil and discourage it’s practice by others. People who really have a relationship with Jesus Christ and are born of the spirit (see – John 3:5-6), show their love for Jesus by worshiping Him and obeying His commands (see – John 14:15). Their purpose in this world is not to satisfy their worldly appetites, but to reflect His love and truth into a dying world. Our conversations should always be pleasing to God, containing godly elements of love, truth, forgiveness and mercy. Such is the nobler cause to which we’ve been called.
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