At some time in each of our lives we feel like we should be a lot more successful than we are. Maybe we're putting so much effort into our families that we feel our children are letting us down. Maybe we work so many hours we feel we should be making a lot more money. However, more often than not, we fail to do the one thing that really makes success count.
To achieve this, let me ask you...What does SUCCESS mean to you? Guess what, if you can't answer this that means you probably haven't written it down either. You see, it's not an easy question to answer. Sure you may say I want a better car, bigger house, and/or more clients; but if you remove all those tangible things you'll find success is really more intangible than tangible.
Success is the point in which you look at your life and decide what's important to you and when you've accomplished things that are affecting change, have a deep meaning, and bring not only you but the world around you true joy. This decision making process is step 2 in The Work It Mama! Coaching System(TM).
Did you know, success is more about your decision than anything else. Once you decide your success point, you're free to enjoy where you've been. Dictionary.com defines success as "the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors".
To understand this, allow me to share my story with you... When I first began coaching I sat down and thought of how I wanted my coaching firm to operate. I did all the usual planning and preparation but then I had to determine what or rather when would I sit back and enjoy being a SUCCESS.
That was tough for me. I got so caught up in the "getting there" that I didn't consider the "I'm here". I had to visually decide when I would enjoy the fruits of my labor rather than keep pecking away planting seeds. More importantly I had to determine when I'd find peace even if "everything" wasn't perfect.
I sat down and created a list that started with "I know I'm Successful When". As I wrote my list I decided I couldn't just have success in one area of my life so I expanded it to include all areas of my life. I realized many of the things I wrote weren't physical (I'll drive this car; I'll have a house this big; etc.).
Rather most items were intangible such as when I've helped X number of Moms, I have X number of satisfied clients, I feel X way. You get my point? So often we try and go after the "things" in life. Though this is not all bad, if we really evaluate what brings us joy it's probably not the tangible things.
Now don't get me wrong, if you've worked hard to buy a house or drive your dream car these are successes for you. But, if you look at the other aspects of your life that bring you the most joy, happiness, and peace, I'm sure you'll find these are not all tangible things.
Here's my top 5 list (and yes to keep balanced I do have a tangible success on the list). I Know I'm A Success When:
1. I'm not only active, but a major contributor to the lives of the members of my church (i.e., actively planning events and worshiping experiences that benefit the membership as a whole).
2. I've been a supportive, loving, and wonderful wife to my husband for at least 20 years.
3. I've raised my children to be productive contributors to society.
4. I've positively touched the lives of at least 5,000 women through my coaching firm.
5. My primary home can comfortably accommodate my children and grandchildren and sits on at least 5 acres of land.
Now it's your turn, what does success mean to you?
Try this Assignment:
What are your top 5 success criteria? Include all aspects of your life. Be sure to hang this up where you'll get to see it every day. If you've already met one goal, be sure to put a star beside it. You deserve it!
Quiana Murray, The Me Time Queen & Mentor, is creator of The Work It Mama! Coaching SystemTM, the proven step-by-step program to help you be #1 on your to-do list in no time flat...guaranteed. To receive your F.R.E.E. Get Acquainted Gift and receive her bi-weekly how-to articles on being your own #1 priority, visit www.QuianaTMurray.com.
My list of measurements is much shorter. In fact, there's just one criterion on my list.
1. You are successful when you have given yourself completely to Jesus Christ.
I don't measure success by works.
"For by grace are ye saved through faith, and not of yourselves; it is the gift of God; Not of works, lest any man boast."