I want to read you a scripture I from Proverbs 31. It says, “Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies” (NKJV). The passage goes on about what a virtuous woman is and how wonderful it is to have one. I am fortunate, I have found one. My soul mate is far more worthy in fact, than rubies. I truly could not imagine what my life would be like without her.
As I watched her give birth to this huge 10 pound boy she recently bestowed upon me, I began to realize what a mother really is. She’s a person that seeks the welfare of all around her at the expense of her own. She desires a child for herself and for her husband, all the while knowing what is ahead of her. She makes sure her children are fed before or at the cost of herself. She constantly thinks of the future, her child’s future, her husbands future. She then makes certain she is presentable to the world. My wife goes even further.
Early on Sunday mornings, I am over at the church preparing for the service. She gets up and gets her 2 children (3 now) ready, dresses them, bathes them, whatever is needed. She cooks them breakfast, cares to see they are fed and then she comes over to the church to prepare the songs that she will lead in worship.
She also prepares a lesson for Children’s Church, one for Ladies Prayer on Tuesdays and does most of the cooking on Thursday for the homeless. This leaves her very little time for herself. And yet, she manages just fine. In fact, I would have to say, she is my crown.
So what does the word virtue mean? Well the word here “virtuous” is pronounced khahyil (chayil) in the original Hebrew in which it was written. The word meant “a force of good.” The online Merriam-Webster dictionary (www.m-w.com) defines it as “potent, efficacious (effective), righteous and chaste.” Well, clearly the meaning hasn’t changed much. A force of good. Not every one of us can say that about ourselves, I know. But a virtuous person is a person who not only exhibit’s the goodness in themselves, but causes those around them to desire to be good as well. That’s a virtuous woman such as I have in my wife.
Can anyone be virtuous? Of course. My wife is awesome, but she hasn’t cornered the market on it. She has committed herself to God. She has asked Jesus to have his leading in her life. She has learned to love God above all others. Including me! It may sound funny, but I prefer it that way. Having made God first in our lives has not caused a separation between us. In fact, it has drawn us closer. A virtuous person is a person who has allowed God to mold them into what He wants them to be. They become effective, beautiful, gracious people. Just like Jesus is!
God has bestowed the most precious gift upon me that I could imagine. When I was a boy, I imagined all sorts of possibilities concerning my future wife. Now I realize how far short my imaginations fell. Guys, when you think of your wife, do you think of what she could be if…? Or are you blown away by who she is? Sometimes we need to look deeper at who God has given us. I am very honored and very proud of my wife. What she has endured, with love, is beyond belief.
A virtuous woman, like rubies, is hard to find, but they are out there…
Matthew R. Davenport, 2006
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