"If I would have told you that I choked my last girlfriend, would you have dated me?"...
That should have been a dead give-a-way to my 10 year road of domestic violence. But I said, "No, I know you love me and you'd never hurt me!"
My ex-husband gave me alot of roses & told me he loved me so much, but unfortunately, I only recieved those things AFTER getting beat around. I didn't have too many rules to go by. I just wasn't aloud to talk to or look at another guy. That wasn't easy to do, because I happened to be in the military with 95% guys. Life was pretty miserable for me! Lets just say, I lost my military career.
My pregancy should have been a joy, but when I was constantly accused of cheating, that ,sort of , took the joy away from it. Not to mention, the constant punches to the stomach. Not fun!
Now, take away hand fulls of hair, punches to my mouth, a broken nose, getting my wind knocked out, a gun in my face, being threatened, being called every name you can imagine, serious depression and all that was left over was a woman who would rather die than to live another day with that monster.
Ten years of my life was spent mending wounds, defending myself or crying quietly as I went to sleep. After 20 attempts of leaving, losing every single thing that I had AND with TONS of support from my family, I finally got away from this man...ALIVE!
It has taken 10 more years to heal from the trauma. Praise God for sparing me during that aweful time! For he knew the plans he had for me. (Jerimiah 29:11) Now, it is my mission to help women around the nation and my community, who suffer like I once did. Please help me SPEAK OUT against Domestic Violence.
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